Kissing is zero risk for STDs, and receiving oral sex is low risk -- not completely risk free, but much lower risk than unprotected vaginal or anal sex. You can't catch a sore throat from an infection acquired through your genital tract.
If your sore throat and fever have anything to do with this sexual exposure, it's most likely you just caught a garden variety cold or other respiratory virus by kissing. Or maybe allergy, although that isn't likely to cause fever.
Do you really have fever? Have you taken your temperature and found it to be over 100F (38C)? Just feeling "feverish" doesnt count. If definite fever, see a doctor. Every illness with both sore throat and fever should be professionally evaluated. The concern is not STDs, but strep throat, mononucleosis, etc. But if no real fever, you can safely just sit tight and wait for it to clear up on its own -- but still see a doctor if sore throat lasts more than another week or so.
thanks for replying and yes i checked it this morning and it was 100.8 i took advil and the pain and the fever went away now the pain on my throat is back but my temperature is around 99.8 now. i also check on the hiv forum and they say theres no risk by kissing or oral sex.
Correct about HIV risk, both because kissing and oral sex carry little or no risk, and if you're in the US, the statistical chance any particular sexually active women has HIV is under 1 in a thousand. In any case, see a doctor about your fever and sore throat and take it from there. In the meantime, I would advise against treating your fever with advil or anything else. Better to let it follow its natural course, which will be more helpful to your doctor in making a diagnosis.
Thank you so much for your help looks like it was a strep throat since everyone at work has it now too. im feeling so much better today.
With several close contacts all affected, this probably is a virus, not strep throat. However, if you really suspect strep, you need to see a doctor. Even when strep throat improves on its own, an antbiotic is necessary to reduce the risk of serious complications, including rheumatic fever and glomerulonephritis, a serious kidney disease. These are rare today but extremely serious, so don't take chances.