Your wife was likely tested for chlamydia a couple of times during pregnancy. If your child was born with chlamydia, it would have been noticeable.
Your tests are conclusive. If you have chlamydia, you test positive whether or not you have symptoms.
You had no risk from the handjob, even if spit was used as lube.
1) what is the likleyhood of us ping pong the infection over the last 4 or so years not realizing it. and when each of us tested negative we didint have it but the other one did? since we didnt test at the same time ( about a year apart ) i did have symtoms for a few days of burning on Urination ( which is a sign ) can couple ping pong then clear etc of years unnoticed? or is this something that is not plausible
Absolutely zero. You've both been tested and she had a baby (I'm presuming, since she was pregnant).
2) is chlamydia transmitted through saliva or lick to the penis? how is it transmitted orally? does penis have to be a the back of the throat for transmission? if so, then how can you get oral stds from oral ex with a vagina if saliva doesnt play a roll? or is oral sex with a vagina more or less a theory and doesnt happen in realy world
Chlamydia from oral sex usually happens when it resides in the throat. This happens mostly when giving oral sex to a penis. It is rare to get this from giving oral sex to a vagina, and not that common from giving it to a penis, for that matter.
Oral sex on a vagina is safer than oral on a penis because nothing enters the throat like a penis does.
3) how can I be sure my test was accurate since I waited a few days after Burning stopped to go get tested since the symptoms cleared in a few days does that make it less likely to be infection? for example would the atleast progress for some time and or worsen? instead of clearing in just a few days ( i increased my water intake those few days and then it just went away)
If you had waited months, you might have reason to worry, but not days. The test would have still picked up remaining dead bacteria.
4) about 5 months ago she had a pap and then a colposcopy ( bc of the hpv infection the just wanted to make sure all is well ) Dr told her " despite the hpv infection your cervix looks healthy" my questions is if she had Chlamydia can a normal pap or the colposcopy give clues to a chlamydia infection. I know obviously NAAT test is the only definitive answer BUT would a normal pelvic exam and colposcopy help go towards evidence that an infection is not present?
No, these can't pick up chlamydia, but quite often, they run a chlamydia test at the same time as a pap. It just depends on the doctor and their choice.
I'm very glad to hear that you have an appt with a therapist. You do not have chlamydia, so try to stay off the internet googling this stuff in the meantime. If you feel the need to do so, distract yourself.
Take care.