Gonorrhea, freaking out!! :(

[johnterrence14]

Hello, I am a 24 year old gay male (bottom).  I met a guy a couple weeks ago (NOV10) and we had protected anal sex and unprotected oral sex. A few days later I got a message from him telling me that a swab to his throat had tested positive for Gonorrhea. I went to my GP the same day (NOV14) and although I didn't have any symptoms I got a treatment for Gonorrhea (one shot)+Chlamydia (4 pills). In addition, because of an unrelated problem regarding pain in my testicles (for which earlier tests had given negative STD results), the doctor gave a treatment of ofloxacin that I am still taking.  He told me not to have sex for at least one week.

On Nov 17 I kissed and had a brief mutual masturbation moment with a different guy. I learnt that he may also have been exposed to Gonorrhea. I don't think we exchanged secretions (a part from saliva) and I didn't cum. The next day I saw the guy who was infected on the first place, and we mutually masturbated. At some point he fingered me using lubrifiant. He had been treated for Gonorrhea the same day I was. There were some brief kisses. About 10 days had passed since I got my treatment and I met a guy I really care about. On the excitement of the moment I just said to myself that it would be "safe" to have sex. We had protected anal sex and unprotected oral sex. Now I'm terrified I might have passed him the infection.

1. Could the infection still be in me after 10 days if I ever got it in the first place?
2. How worried should I be about the kisses, and the mutual masturbation that happened in the mid time of my "no sex" period?
3. I am worried about resistance? Is there a chance that the treatment I got was ineffective?
4. Should I tell the last guy I had sex with? Can I wait till I get another test to be sure? I really don't want to tell him now, unless it is really necessary.
5. Could the ofloxacin that I am taking (unrelated to an STD) have any influence  on all of this?

[gracefromHHP]

kissing isn't a risk for std's.  we don't consider hsv1 orally to be a std.

mutual masturbation isn't a real risk either. hpv is about the only real risk from that sort of activity.

as I said, no reason to be worried - -just be safer from this point forward to protect yourself!!  also always make sure herpes testing is included in your std testing. it typically isn't and the rates of herpes infections in gay males are very high.  

good luck finding a good man! I've been looking forever and still can't find one :(  Doesn't matter if they are gay or straight, all the good ones seem to be taken....sigh

[Life360_Dave]

john to be sure please consult your doctor as this will only be speculation.
All the best.

[johnterrence14]

Thanks life360! I'm feeling better although still worried. I want to find a soulmate. It's not easy. Sex is becoming just another banal activity and I have to admit that I have fallen into the easiness of it. Those encounters we're even worth it. I don't know if you can help me with this, but could my ofloxacin treatment have helped in avoiding a reinfection. Can you confirm that kissing an mutual masturbation carry only a theoretical risk of gonorrhea?? Thanks again for your comments!!!

[Life360_Dave]

With the fingering and mutual masterbation most likely no transmission. John, more and more people are getting Chlymidia and Gono from unprotected oral and once this starts going on between mulitple partners, its really hard to get a handle on it. For your own good and the good of your loved ones. Please try to be more responsible. All the fun and sex is temporary but if you get a big STD, it can be a lifelong endeavor. Its really not worth it, better just to masterbate yourself when you get the itch. Focus on finding a life long mate and share true love between the 2 of you.

[johnterrence14]

Thanks for your reply!!! I did not have unprotected oral during my no sex period. I did however had unprotected oral sex 10 days after I got my shot. What freaks me out is that in between I kissed a guy that might have been exposed and also had a mutual masturbation period (including fingering) with the person who was initially diagnosed. I feel really bad about this, I try to be responsible with my sex life but this time it got out of control.

Grace I had been tested two weeks before all o these happened and all std + HIV results were negative

[gracefromHHP]

so you never were tested for std's, just treated automatically  because you had a partner who had oral gonorrhea?  

if you did really have gonorrhea, you had waited long enough before having any oral sex again for it not to be an issue any more.

since you are sexually active with multiple partners, you should be protecting yourself much better!!! Only have protected sexual contact - if your pants are off, you should have a condom on. only give and receive protected oral sex too!!

condoms do work but not 100% for all std's. have you had your gardasil shot series for hpv yet?  we also recommend periodic testing for syphilis and herpes even if a condom is consistently worn.

grace

[Life360_Dave]

Hi John, most likely your ok but there was a lot of back and forth with different men and the question of Gonorrehea is up in the air. You were treated and the shot most likley took care of the Gono. You did have unprotected oral during the no sex period and the whole circle of passing could have started again. Kissing and mutual masterbation would not transmit. Please consult your doctor about all of this because as you said you were not sure if you transferred secretions. As far as telling your new friend, if you care about him, you should fill him in on all of this.