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First time unprotected anal sex, STDs Questions.
I (a male) have recently had unprotected anale sex with another male in which I was the one inserting. He says that it didn't hurt at all, and that he only felt soar afterwards. He also claims to have no complication when taking a dump, and that he didn't poop out blood. I used precum and saliva (lots of saliva) to be able to insert it into him with ease. I also asked while starting to insert if it hurts, and I did it as slow as I could.
Should I still be paranoid of the possibility of him or I having some sort of STDs?
Should I still be paranoid of the possibility of him or I having some sort of STDs?
So lets keep this simple - Did you have unprotective sex? Yes. Are you at risk? Yes.
Being "top" can put you less at risk from certain STIs, but still at risk. Do you know the male or his STI status?
Testing windows
Chlamydia - 2 week
Gono - 2 week
HIV - 4 week with 4th gen
Syphilis - 6 weeks
Syph is not that common in developed countries but does seem to be making a come back.
Also, please use proper lube when having anal sex. It helps reduce the risk of small tears or fissures if you go to rough and will take longer to try than spit and other bodily fluids.
Being "top" can put you less at risk from certain STIs, but still at risk. Do you know the male or his STI status?
Testing windows
Chlamydia - 2 week
Gono - 2 week
HIV - 4 week with 4th gen
Syphilis - 6 weeks
Syph is not that common in developed countries but does seem to be making a come back.
Also, please use proper lube when having anal sex. It helps reduce the risk of small tears or fissures if you go to rough and will take longer to try than spit and other bodily fluids.
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They are negative as of yesterday, but that is why I'm paranoid. I am not sure if us having unprotected sex would cause one of us to get any sicknesses. He said that it didn't hurt afterwards, and that he enjoyed it. He said he didn't have any sort of complications afterwords.
How worried should I be?
How worried should I be?
Yes I do know him, I have known him for almost my whole life. He also said during the sex, there was no pain whatsoever. Only time he felt pain was when I went to deep once, and that was what probably caused the soreness. There was also no bleeding during the sex, before, and after, so it doesn't seem as if he had any fissures.
I read that the probability is pretty slim if either of us having any form is diseases. I also made sure it was a smooth insertion since I made sure to ask him throughout the process if he was still ok.
I read that the probability is pretty slim if either of us having any form is diseases. I also made sure it was a smooth insertion since I made sure to ask him throughout the process if he was still ok.
Only precum was involved in the anus, cumming was outside of the body.
Having pain or no pain involved with any kind of sex doesn't mean anything about STDs. While having tearing involved can increase the chances of HIV, having no pain doesn't mean there wasn't tearing.
People won't necessarily have large amounts of visible blood. They could have microscopic tears that you won't see. Using saliva as lube for anal sex isn't enough.
Pain and a smooth insertion is about pleasure during sex, not STD prevention. It's thoughtful of you, but it's not going to prevent you from getting anything he might have had, or giving him anything you might have had.
Using a water based lube with a latex condom is the best way to prevent disease transmission, and help with reducing pain. You should also make sure you are doing a good prep, using fingers to stretch your partner for anal sex. There are lots of websites that can help you with that.
People won't necessarily have large amounts of visible blood. They could have microscopic tears that you won't see. Using saliva as lube for anal sex isn't enough.
Pain and a smooth insertion is about pleasure during sex, not STD prevention. It's thoughtful of you, but it's not going to prevent you from getting anything he might have had, or giving him anything you might have had.
Using a water based lube with a latex condom is the best way to prevent disease transmission, and help with reducing pain. You should also make sure you are doing a good prep, using fingers to stretch your partner for anal sex. There are lots of websites that can help you with that.
I made sure to loosen him up first before. None of us both have anything.
So, when having tears, do you feel them?
How worried should I be about this? Because it isn't really letting me live my life. Should I put too much thought into it? Or should I relax just a bit?
I have out things inside of my anus before and are properly knowledgeable on how to make it a smooth insertion.
So, when having tears, do you feel them?
How worried should I be about this? Because it isn't really letting me live my life. Should I put too much thought into it? Or should I relax just a bit?
I have out things inside of my anus before and are properly knowledgeable on how to make it a smooth insertion.
Did you test? The only thing you can do is test. I don't know what his risk level is for anything to tell you how worried you should be.
If you've both tested at the appropriate times, and are negative, you can stop worrying. :)
If you've both tested at the appropriate times, and are negative, you can stop worrying. :)
We've tested negative before, and I have both shots of HPV (something to strengthen the immunization against Hepatitis).
You said the tests were negative as of yesterday. When was this encounter? And since his last tests before this encounter, has he seen anyone else?
Like AJ said, the pain factor has nothing to do with the transmission of STI so although its good that you are making sure hes ok, it bears no difference on if you could or could not get an STI.
Like AJ said, the pain factor has nothing to do with the transmission of STI so although its good that you are making sure hes ok, it bears no difference on if you could or could not get an STI.
Excellent questions.
Also, the HPV vaccines do not protect you against hepatitis. Those protect you against the human papilloma virus, which is different than hepatitis. Perhaps you meant hepatitis A virus, which is a series of 2 shots?
Also, the HPV vaccines do not protect you against hepatitis. Those protect you against the human papilloma virus, which is different than hepatitis. Perhaps you meant hepatitis A virus, which is a series of 2 shots?
To GM ~
We got the test results as negative two days ago, and did the sex that night. He has not seen anyone at all. By yesterday, I believe I meant two nights ago, January 2nd. I'm not exactly sure on the dates since I sleep pretty late, so I'll refer to the names of the dates. We got the results on January 2nd, and had sex that same night.
To AJ ~
Yes, that is the shot I believe.
We got the test results as negative two days ago, and did the sex that night. He has not seen anyone at all. By yesterday, I believe I meant two nights ago, January 2nd. I'm not exactly sure on the dates since I sleep pretty late, so I'll refer to the names of the dates. We got the results on January 2nd, and had sex that same night.
To AJ ~
Yes, that is the shot I believe.
He hasn't seen anyone at all ever? Are you his first sexual partner? When was his most recent sexual partner if you aren't his first?
When was yours, prior to him?
When was yours, prior to him?
To us both, we are the first to experience anal sex with each other. It's his first time getting penetrated, and my first time inserting. But we've never done any sexual things with anyone else.
"But we've never done any sexual things with anyone else."
and
"We got the test results as negative two days ago, and did the sex that night."
Would indicate that each other was your first sexual encounter ever for the both of you.
With this, it is safe to say there is no risk of STIs and neither of you had an STI to pass on.
If it is not your first time, BUT the last encounter for each of you was 6 weeks prior to your encounter, then again, there is no risk of STIs as your test has confirmed this.
and
"We got the test results as negative two days ago, and did the sex that night."
Would indicate that each other was your first sexual encounter ever for the both of you.
With this, it is safe to say there is no risk of STIs and neither of you had an STI to pass on.
If it is not your first time, BUT the last encounter for each of you was 6 weeks prior to your encounter, then again, there is no risk of STIs as your test has confirmed this.
Absolutely agree with all of this. :)
Ok, thank you both so much for responding, and for clarifying my paranoia.
Thank you GM, and thank you too AJ.
I can finally sleep well =^-^=
Thank you GM, and thank you too AJ.
I can finally sleep well =^-^=
Happy to help. :)
Good evening GM and AJ.
I am sorry to disturb once again, but I had the same experience with the same partner.
This time, I was only able to put in less than the tip. Yet again, it was unprotected.
Should I be worried again?
Same partner, same status after we got tested some time in March again (Negative)
I am sorry to disturb once again, but I had the same experience with the same partner.
This time, I was only able to put in less than the tip. Yet again, it was unprotected.
Should I be worried again?
Same partner, same status after we got tested some time in March again (Negative)
Have either of you had any other partners since March, either male or female?
You have got to start using condoms. Is the testing status the status from March, or did you both test again?
You have got to start using condoms. Is the testing status the status from March, or did you both test again?
Good afternoon AJ.
No, we have only experienced with eachother giving it oraly to eachother.
Yes, i know, I just did not think we would need one this time since i wasnt thinking of doing anything anal related. But we got into the heat of the moment, and i almost penetrated him, but wasn't able to do so since i finished before the tip could even go in (embarrassing, i know).
We both got tested again on March and came out negative (we tested before around December or January and got negative).
No, we have only experienced with eachother giving it oraly to eachother.
Yes, i know, I just did not think we would need one this time since i wasnt thinking of doing anything anal related. But we got into the heat of the moment, and i almost penetrated him, but wasn't able to do so since i finished before the tip could even go in (embarrassing, i know).
We both got tested again on March and came out negative (we tested before around December or January and got negative).
If you are each other's only partner, and are negative, you can't give each other something you don't have.
Think of covid. If you and I hang out together, apart from everyone else, for weeks, we can't give each other covid if we are both negative, right?
Think of covid. If you and I hang out together, apart from everyone else, for weeks, we can't give each other covid if we are both negative, right?
ohh okok. That actually made sense. Thank you so much for responding. Once again, thank you for helping me calm down from my worries.
I hope the rest of your day goes well!
I hope the rest of your day goes well!
You too, and happy to help. :)
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