One second unprotected oral

[hereandtherenowhere]

Hi there. I had just a protected oral intercourse and some fingering. The problem is that the csw forgot for a second to put the protection. So really 100% sure one sec or two sec tops, she just put lips and tonhue on the shaft, at that moment we stopped and she put the protection and moved on. Protection was on the half of the penis but shaft ad covered and intact. After that I took the protection off and she did hj and cpl of times she took her spit and put it on my shaft (small amount). Does any of these thigs ring a red alert for some stds like herpes, syphilis etc...? (Hope not - I am very anxious) Thanks in advance

[auntiejessi]

There is no risk from the fingering at all, so we'll just move on from that.

There is really no risk from one second of anything. It takes time and friction to transmit STDs. A quick kiss or lick to the penis doesn't have either of those things.

Protected oral sex can transmit syphilis and genital herpes type 1 (if you don't have it oral herpes already). Condoms offer significant protection, but they don't cover all the skin, so there is still a slight chance.

There is no risk from the spit. The transmission of STDs from oral sex comes from being exposed to bacteria that resides in the throat (gonorrhea, chlamydia, NGU) or from skin to skin contact (syphilis and genital hsv1).

I wouldn't worry about this at all. The risk is really quite low.

[hereandtherenowhere]

Well I asked that girl about health check and she said she is weekly doing std/sti/hiv panel and that I should calm. If anything occur, on her moutz I dif not nitice any bumps or craks so I guess syphilis is really out of option since it cant be transmited if you dobt see it (!? I guess) but in any case when can I expect to see the symptoms if they appear???(and I do believe they wont)

[auntiejessi]

"so I guess syphilis is really out of option since it cant be transmited if you dobt see it (!? I guess)"

This is true.

Syphilis symptoms appear between 10-90 days, most often at 3 weeks.

Again, I wouldn't spend any time worrying about this.

[hereandtherenowhere]

The reason I am in to this much anxiety is that my girl is pregnant in 15th week. So I would never ever do anything to harm her or child. This was so foolish and stupid. So I really hope there is not a chance to get any stds/stis from this one exposure event. That one second or two seconds where the shaft was in here mouth so briefly are making me nuts. I didnt notice anything around her mouth or so...do you think I can move on with my life and have regular sexual intercourse with my wife??? Can I put my mind at ease??? What would you do??? Thanks in advance

[CurfewX]

The only way to keep your girlfriend and your unborn child completely safe from STDs is to stop having sexual encounters with other people. The last time you were here, just a few months ago, you said you would never consider going outside the relationship again. This is the best idea for EVERYONE'S health, and for your anxiety. These encounters are probably not worth the stress they cause you, even when you have had a very low risk for any STDs.

[auntiejessi]

If you need to, get counseling to figure out why you keep doing this. You do it, have all this anxiety, and then do it again. Seems like something you'd want to figure out.

Your wife is pregnant. If you give her something during pregnancy, it can be very, very harmful to the baby. Get counseling.

[hereandtherenowhere]

I do undestand what do you mean and you are 100% right. From the first encounter I did learn nothing. Honestly. Every time I do this, so 2 encounters all in all I am going of the rails one hour later of guilt and shame. I am stopping this. Just please give me your opinion can I sleep with my wife and cane I move on with my life? There is not a single thing I've not mention. And that very thing that I writing this is almost unbearable to me. I am a total wreck for so many reasons but it is not the topic here. So...you wont see me for some time, most probably never again. Would you recomend testing and can I put my mind at ease regarding the health department. What would you do if you were wearing my shoes? Can I continue sleeping with my wife??? Thank you

[auntiejessi]

Did you test after the 2 women in Brazil? If you did, and were negative, I see no reason to test again now. This was essentially a non-risk event.

If it puts your mind at ease, then test again, but you don't need my recommendation or approval for that.

Since I don't think you need to test, I see no reason why you can't have sex with your wife.

[hereandtherenowhere]

Thank you auntiejessi from the bottom of my heart and I do wish you and me never to see or type each other here in the most human way possible since I will do everything for you bot to see me here again. Thank you for all your support and I just booked my very first therapy session. Peace and love !

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. Take care. :)

[hereandtherenowhere]

Just to make things s bit clearer...I fingered csw, not the other way around