Positive for herpes simplex 2

[Soon to be ex]

Three weeks ago I went to my Doctor, because of a burning, when going to the restroom. what was found upset me. she asked if I had ever been asked if I had herpes. She has been my doctor for 7 years and the answer was no. She had some tests done. A herpes culture was done and results came back positive for herpes simplex type 2. The other results are:HSV IgG (Type I) -3.39 (H), positive antibodies to HSV-1. HSV IgG (TypeII) -1.33 (H), positive antibodies to HSV-2. I have been married for 1 year and was with my husband for 2 years before that. We have never used condoms. This was the first genital outbreak I ever had. I have never had any cold sore, maybe a canker sore or 2. He has had cold sores several times since we have been together. Looking at other posted questions, the number seems to show how long ago someone was exposed. Is there any way of knowing how long ago I was exposed and does this show my husband must have been unfaithful to me? i thought I had a urinary tract infection, so you can just imagine what I felt like when I found this all out. Please help me, I need to know if my husband has cheated on me or if I just havent had any symptoms until now.

[gracefromHHP]

The numbers are just that - numbers.  You really can't ascertain how long you've been infected from them.

At this point you need to get your hubby tested for hsv2 and see what his results are.  If he tests + too for hsv2 it's hard to tell who had it first or even if you both came into the relationship with it and never knew it. Chances are good that he was never tested for herpes before this too.  

Just because herpes is just now showing up in the relationship doesn't mean that he's been out having affairs.  If we assume he had it before he met you just to make it easy - it could've easily been many more years, if ever, that he transmitted it to you.  It's really not as easily transmitted as everyone assumes it is.

I encourage you to take the time to watch the patient counseling video and read the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com.  Both will help you better understand this virus and help you decide how to treat it. Once you know your hubby's status you two can make decisions together as to what treatments will be best for you.

grace

[jads]

there could be many different scenarios I would think. Herpes can be dormant for years before showing symptoms - and having said that, many people never display symptoms, so hence, never know they have it!

The only way you will know about your partner is if you ask him, point blank. The short answer is that your positive test doesn't tell you anything conclusively about your guy. Either one of you MAY have picked it up prior to your relationship. I got clymidia in the middle of a 5 yr comitted relationship and I never questioned my partner for a second. It was just one of those things.

best of luck.