Question regarding credibility

[angel111]

I just performed unprotected oral sex with a doctor who i had been dating for a year, but had never fully had sexual intercourse with. However, the other day i did perform oral sex on him just because he told me he was "in the mood". I had asked him several times if he had any std's and he assured me he does not.

two days after i was foolish enough to perform oral on him and he released into my mouth some, i started developing severe nerve pain in my left ankle and my left and right wrist. I've been feeling real sleepy, dry mouth, headache, and heel pain which was a sudden onset.

To my surprise, i also found out as i was surfing his computer w/out his permission, that he has several relationships and has dated multiple women from Russia whom were prostitutes abroad. I am ultra paranoid now and regret ever being involved with this sort of trash in my life.

Please give me an idea as to what to get tested for. I am also having severe chest pain  in the upper left and pain around the ovary area, lower abdominial region.

Please give me an idea as to what would be worth being tested for. I have my annual in a few days either way, and i just needed an idea as to what to have them check for.

Thanks

[auntiejessi]

HPV is almost never a risk for oral sex - its low enough that I wouldn't worry at all about that.

Aj

[angel111]

Thanks a bunch for that piece of information. I agree fully 100% and I think that is by far the smartest thing to do, too bad I wasn't! Is there also a risk for HPV with oral sex? If so, is that included in the oral swap exams? Thanks for your prompt responses and advice.  I REALLY appreciate that you take the time to respond to those in search of knowledge about this subject.

[auntiejessi]

Well, no std would cause the pains you are talking about, and you would only have it orally.

Its either pure coincidence that it started just after, or anxiety.

I don't do anything with men who won't test.  Its a rule I made for myself after similar situations, and I figure I'm worth a man going and peeing in a cup and getting some blood drawn, ya know?  This doesn't work for casual sex, but I'm not a casual sex person (its not a moral thing, just that I can't separate the emotion from the sex).

I don't say that to be lecture-y, but just to offer a suggestion.  You won't get any response from this guy that is going to make you feel better, so just get your testing done.  

Aj

[angel111]

However this has made me PARANOID even more so since the nerve pain onset itself immediately after that encounter. After talking with me for a year even more so, he know refuses to connect with me and refuses to take any testing.

[angel111]

Hey, thanks for your prompt response, I really appreciate it. I am sick of just being with people who are dishonest from the get go. This man refused to take std testing for me and simply told me afterwards "we NEVER had sex", which is false because oral is considered some sort of sex! So he is misleading and trying to use psychology on me since he is a psychiatrist afterall, they are full of it!

[auntiejessi]

Hi there -

None of this is going to be related to an std, since you only gave him oral.  You can't have a genital infection from giving oral - you would have an oral infection.

None of your symptoms are due to an std from this encounter, and most of them aren't symptoms of an std at all.

The only things you are at risk for are oral gonorrhea and syphilis.  You can get a throat swab done at your appt, and in 6 weeks, get a syphilis blood test.

Do talk to your doctor about your other symptoms, though.  Its possible something else is going on that you need medical attention for.

Aj