Just another stupid man on business-trip

[Norman67]

Hey, all

I've been sitting for 5 straight hours reading posts and answers on STDs, feeling my crotch aching more and more.

As one of many, it seems, I made the ingenius (NOT) decision to bring a prostitute to my hotelroom after a drinking night out in a big city in South East Asia. The intercourse and oral was with condom, no kissing and i never performed anything on her ( oral, finger).
Waking up 3 hours later in panic, wondering what the f*** I have done.
I'm married, with 2 kids, risking everything for a quick pleasure...
Yesterday was the worst day of my life (continuing today..) thinking about what to do. Almoust no sleep, nothing to eat, not even out of my room.

First of all, what is the risk of cathing an STD during the encounter?
Second, what do I do when I come home..?
The moral issue here, is that I have to tell her. Or do I continue as nothing happened, hoping for the best?
Fact is, I am almost sure marriage is over if I tell her.
I am really close to loosing my mind over this, and with no friends close to talk to,I am posting this on the forum trying to get some contact or opinions from others.

Sure would appreciate any answer.

Best Regards
Dumb f...

[mboy14]

I would talk to your friend or even a professional. When I have issues dealing with anxiety i consult a counselor and it helps tremendously. Don't just assume your marriage is over if you tell her. Best of luck.

[Norman67]

Yeah, got a friend I can talk to, but most of all I would like talk to my wife.
The problem is that I know the marriage will be over once I do.

I will start with my friend, and see where it goes.

Thanks very much for your insight.

J-E

[gracefromHHP]

got a good friend you can talk to about this when you get home?  someone who knows you and can help you through this is often useful.  

grace

[Norman67]

..well, this experience will at least cure me from ever thinking cheating on my wife in the future.
Thinking of how bad I feel, how bad  would the cheated part feel?!?

OK, wont bother the forum with anymore smalltalk.
Just needed contact with someone, somewhere.

Thank you!
J-E

[gracefromHHP]

oh trust me, you could get WAY more stupid...lol.  Heck even I've been way more stupid than protected sex with a csw....lol.


the guilt of the encounter is far more of an issue than the risk of a std.  

[Norman67]

Hi, thanks for quick response.

I know it is considered low risk, but my conscience will haunt me for ever. This was a first and last encounter, can tell you that much!
Can not stop thinking, what if....
How can I face my wife with a smile after this?
What would she and the family think if this gets out?

Not at all looking forward to travel home in two days.
I know it sounds pathetic, and I can only blame myself. Not trying to make any stupid excuses.

****, how stupid can one get..??

[gracefromHHP]

this was protected oral and genital sex. the risk of a std is very low.    it's really not worth any testing from a one time encounter.

grace