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a few months ago i got two sores down there that were really small so i got checked out..My doctor tested them and said it was HSV-1 and i know i got it from a recent partner through oral sex...she told me that my case was so mild i'd probably never have another outbreak again and that I couldn't transmit it to other people unless I had any symptoms and that this probably would never affect me again in life. however, i'm still freaking out and am terrified about having to tell future partners and them basically running away from me. Do you think I should be worried? Even if I explain to future partners that my doctor said I can't trasmit it without symptoms?
Also in reply to this I do not have exact numbers off the top of my head but it is close to 70% of the population that has the viral infection actually already have the virus lying dormant in their system even though they do not show signs but they just don't know they have it. You will be able to have a long term relationship again. Whether it is with someone that has it or doesn't have it. I would covet yourself from them until you feel comfortable because anyone that hears it on a first date will probably run with how things are in todays society. I would wait a month or so and do not have sex with them for at least this period of time.
Your doctor is wrong on this as you can pass this on with or without symptoms and the case of severity is not a factor in it either.
Secondly you should always tell your future partners that you have it and if they run they aren't worth your time anyways. I am with my wife now and she is carrying my twins. I recently found out that she has HSV-1 and I figured she had it back when we first started having sexual intercourse as I got blisters and even though my doctor told me I didn't have anything I am sure that I still have it. The point of telling you this is that I love her no matter who gave who what even though she blames me for it I am willing to take the blame of it. If you have anymore questions let me know.
Secondly you should always tell your future partners that you have it and if they run they aren't worth your time anyways. I am with my wife now and she is carrying my twins. I recently found out that she has HSV-1 and I figured she had it back when we first started having sexual intercourse as I got blisters and even though my doctor told me I didn't have anything I am sure that I still have it. The point of telling you this is that I love her no matter who gave who what even though she blames me for it I am willing to take the blame of it. If you have anymore questions let me know.
Just a word of encouragement.....this is new infection for you so it's normal to freak out.
I contracted HSV-1 genitally 20+ years ago. Never knew the type but learned it with a blood test recently.
I have had only a handful of outbreaks in the 20+ years and all were very mild and they were spaced 6-7 years apart. I can't remember the last time I had an outbreak.
I was in a committed relationship for the 20+ years and never transmitted to him and we never used protection.
I can even remember with the initial outbreak having sex with him (before I knew what it was) and he didn't contract it. Not to say they can't, but if you read the Doctor's forum he has never seen a case of HSV 1 transmitted via intercourse and shedding occurs a lot less than with HSV 2.
Also, 50% of the population has HSV 1 orally and are immune (or much less likely) to being infected with it genitally.
I can honeslty say that having HSV 1 has not affected my life or sex life the entire time I have had it....only for the 3 days when the lesions may be sensitive....and definitely abstain from sex during that time.
You may want to be careful until you see what yours does.....how often it occurs...sometimes you never get another outbreak.
Hope this helps.....read up on the difference between HSV1 & 2 and try to relax.
I contracted HSV-1 genitally 20+ years ago. Never knew the type but learned it with a blood test recently.
I have had only a handful of outbreaks in the 20+ years and all were very mild and they were spaced 6-7 years apart. I can't remember the last time I had an outbreak.
I was in a committed relationship for the 20+ years and never transmitted to him and we never used protection.
I can even remember with the initial outbreak having sex with him (before I knew what it was) and he didn't contract it. Not to say they can't, but if you read the Doctor's forum he has never seen a case of HSV 1 transmitted via intercourse and shedding occurs a lot less than with HSV 2.
Also, 50% of the population has HSV 1 orally and are immune (or much less likely) to being infected with it genitally.
I can honeslty say that having HSV 1 has not affected my life or sex life the entire time I have had it....only for the 3 days when the lesions may be sensitive....and definitely abstain from sex during that time.
You may want to be careful until you see what yours does.....how often it occurs...sometimes you never get another outbreak.
Hope this helps.....read up on the difference between HSV1 & 2 and try to relax.
I heard that it's really realyl rare to pass genital HSV-1 to another person's genitals, less rare than it is to pass HSV-2 genitally and even oral HSV-1, even if they don't already have HSV-1 orally or genitally...is that true? I'm having a hard time dealing with this and feel dirty and think I will never be able to have another long term relationship with anyone after they find out about this.
It is absolutely wrong for your doctor to say you cannot transmit it without outbreaks. That is false. 70% of the time, herpes is transmitted without an obvious outbreak.
That said, she was right that you very well might not ever get another outbreak there. The average for the first year recurrence is 1 outbreak, and it decreases after that.
So, do I think you'll have a lot of nasty symptoms yourself? No. Do I think you should tell your partners? That's a moral question, but in my opinion, you should. Put yourself in their shoes, and ask if you'd be happy if you contracted gHSV-1 from them and they never told you about it. I believe the answer will come to you that way.
Also, if they run away from you in that case, that's immature. Most of them probably have HSV-1 orally anyway, in which case the odds of them catching it from you are very, very small. For someone who is HSV negative, it's more of an issue. I am HSV negative and have knowingly dated HSV-1 positive people before. Just as an example.
That said, she was right that you very well might not ever get another outbreak there. The average for the first year recurrence is 1 outbreak, and it decreases after that.
So, do I think you'll have a lot of nasty symptoms yourself? No. Do I think you should tell your partners? That's a moral question, but in my opinion, you should. Put yourself in their shoes, and ask if you'd be happy if you contracted gHSV-1 from them and they never told you about it. I believe the answer will come to you that way.
Also, if they run away from you in that case, that's immature. Most of them probably have HSV-1 orally anyway, in which case the odds of them catching it from you are very, very small. For someone who is HSV negative, it's more of an issue. I am HSV negative and have knowingly dated HSV-1 positive people before. Just as an example.
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