So last night I was hanging with a friend of mine, like we have before. It was real hot so I dressed down in his boxers and my cami and there was some touching and massaging going on. At any rate, he tried to take it to the way next step at one point and nearly penetrated me - his penis pushed just passed the entrance at worst or was pushing to get in at best. That was before I stopped him, and of course he stopped. He was NOT wearing a condom. :(
Now in late May I was diagnosed with chlamydia which was treated, but it completely devestated me. I suffer from depression and anxiety as it is so it has made me an STD hypochondriac. I've had limited to zero sex since and it has all been with condoms.
Now we had been talking before this and he brought up something about only attracting the same type of woman so he'd made a New Year's resolution to "cut back" and that he hadn't had sex in two months, and I believe him given the context in which he said it.
After that happened I got real nervous and asked him if he has anything, "like herpes or other STDs" and that I should have asked in the first place lest something like this happen. He said no, he's clean as a whistle. That if he had anything he would have told me or not proceeded to do that. I kept asking and asking and it was clear he wanted to reassure me, he even had me examine his penis for peace of mind (which didn't exactly come though there was nothing on it or around it). One of the last times I asked, "are you sure? So you don't have anything, right? I want you to reassure me" he said, "well I'll tell you no and that is the truth but you'll probably worry anyway".
So I'd like to know...
- if it is possible for a 31 year-old straight male to have gone two months with a bacterial STD, or trich, and have zero symptoms? Or at least how likely is it?
- what the risk factors are if he had chlamydia/gonorrhea/trich and didn't know it but his penis slightly penetrated me for a short time, no condom. I understand there is a *chance* but what is the likeliness?
- I cannot go to the STD clinic because I already had this year twice. But if I go somewhere else, is a week long enough to wait?