Help Auntie Jessi

[Overlystressed]

Auntiejessi,

I need your honest opinion and advice again.  

After my previous stupid expericence and stress a few months back i did something bad again....here it goes.

I visited a strip club in Vegas last week Thursday and went to a dark private room for a lap dance.  I put my finger in her vagina, sucked ****, and she tried giving me a hand job.  Room was dark so im not sure if any vaginal fluids got on my penis since she was sitting on my lap when all this occured.  She was giving me a hand job so hard i had to stop her a few times due to the soreness.  After a while she said time was up and just left unhappily.  I checked my finger and there were no cuts.

Later that night i had another stripper give me a lap dance and she too gave me a hand job almost to completion.

After leaving the strip club for some stupid reason i then visited a massage parlor and got a hand job with baby oil from one of the women.  This one was to completion.  First she gave me a bath, then a short massage, then the hand job.  

When i got back to the hotel i noticed a sore or abrasion on the top of my penis below the head in the fold.  It was red but not that sore.  So now the stress starts kicking in on what i could have got.  Size was 1/16" -1/8" in diameter.  Monday night i felt a small scab and yesterday it was gone.  I thought i had a painless lesion or something else.

Do you think i have anything to be concerned about regarding STD's and HIV?  This week i have been having some pains in my right armpit.  I cannot feel any significant lumps but the pain is there.  The stress is starting again.

Please help me again.  I thought what i did is considered safe sex.  Is this true?

Thanks again!

[mnbamb]

HMMM.

[auntiejessi]

That's all safe.

But really - get some help so you don't keep doing this over and over and freaking all the time.  You don't need to live with all the stress and anxiety.

Aj

[Overlystressed]

I forgot to mention i french kissed one of the girls off and on for about an hour.  What are the risks with french kissing with regards to STDs & HIV?  Do i need to be concerned about this?  Im still stressed about my entire situation.  

Just to confirm another thing.  Getting a hand job with/without lotion, spit, etc. is safe or are there risks?  I just want to make sure if i happen to make a dumb mistake again.  

Thanks in advance.

[gracefromHHP]

Have you considered talking to a professional about these behaviors and how to keep yourself from repeating them and increasing your anxiety about them?  

If it's a case that you don't have anything else to spend your money on - I could send ya a bill or two :)

grace

[Overlystressed]

Thanks for the response.  I thought the last time i was posting would be the last.  I was wrong.  The smaller head seems to take over when it comes to these stupid things (fun at the time though) i do.

I need to stop this type of behavior.  But its really hard.  

Thanks again!  

[auntiejessi]

OK No reason to get nasty OS.

You are at no risk for anything.  Really.  None.  I think you probably just had friction burns or irritation on your penis.

I think you need to get some help for this.  You get so anxious when you do these things, yet you continue to do them.  :(

Hang in there, ok?

Aj

[Overlystressed]

Yes this is a community forum but If you are not knowledgeable in this field please dont post your opinion.  I stated i did NOT have a cut on my finger.  I know theres vaginal fluid in a vagina....duh.  I know or hope i MIGHT be okay.  So your post did not help at all.  I know what i did is risky thats why im asking for Aunitjessi's opinion (or others that know what they are talking about) on the risks for STD's and HIV.  You have no clue so please dont post.

[JustLooking]

Whenever you stick your finger in a woman's vagina, you risk infection especially when you have a small nick on your finger.  There's vaginal liquid down there.  Most likely, you don't have anything to worry about.  I think it takes a while for infections to show up anyways, at least a few days.   If all they did was give you a handjob, you might be ok..  I'd go get a std check anyways.   What you are doing is considered risky behavior not safe sex.