the only test i have had in the past was 2 days after this possible exposure, it was for herpes 1, 2 IgM which was <o.91. I have heard these test are useless, is it possible i have had herpes for an extended period of time and never had any outbreaks? If so does this mean it would be harder to transmit to a partner?
Condoms do not prevent transmission of genital herpes 100%. Unless this was the only time you've ever had sex - there's no way to tell how long you've been infected. Have you ever had a herpes blood test before?
A 4.1 result is over the range of false positives so it's not likely to be one :(
grace
was your type 1 positive? type 2 positives between 1.0-3.5 are sometimes false when one has hsv-1.... however your number is higher so i would say that it is indeed a true positive...