Any risk for STD's here?

[1anonymous29]

Here is the skinny..... 9 weeks ago I met a 43 y.o. woman at a bar in a large city in California. I was intoxicated and she told me that she had not been "laid" in a year and a half. She said that she just went through a divorce and was trying to move on now. I ended up kissing her (open mouth) for a few minutes and inserted a finger into her vagina. The fingering took place for about 2 minutes, but penetration was very brief two times, mostly clitoral stimulation. The finger penetration was not very deep, as she had pants on, but the second time she was very wet. When she wanted to leave the bar I told her we needed to get protection. She said "no" so I pulled away from her and gave her a questioning look. She explained that it was late and all the stores would be closed, but it was only about 11 pm at this time. With that I told her good-bye and promptly left. I have since tracked her down and she swears that she is disease free, but continued to lie to me about not being sexually active. After pointing out several observations that I made, she admitted to being very promiscuous.
I have been in a monogamous relationship for 10 years now and have tested HIV neg numerous times. I checked my finger that night and did not notice any open sores, but my nail beds were cracked and chapped. I may have had hang nails at the time also. About 20 hours post this event, I noticed what resembled a deep pimple on my my finger, but it had a good covering of skin over it. Now, at week 9, my lymph nodes are extremely swollen and I have been experiencing joint pain for about three days now.
I have already posted in the HIV forum about that, but my question here is whether I am at any risk of other STD's. I did not notice any Herpes sores on her mouth. Along with the sore lymph nodes/throat, I have noticed white spots in my throat and top of mouth. The corner of my mouth has had very small white blisters (about 4 or so) for about two months. Is this any indication of any STD's?

[auntiejessi]

There is no other way that we can say this.  TQ is right - no risk.

If you are having a hard time moving on, perhaps talk to your doc about anxiety.  If you are still anxious even though every scientific fact about HIV says there is NO risk, then you have an anxiety issue.

AJ

[TesQu]

dont worry.. STD dont pass to you via your finger..  

I guess you must had done lots of google on this issue and many states you may get HIV.. well, you may even died from the explosion of your PC/laptop you are using now..

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/249278

do more search ard.. even ASK ALICE mentioned about this being very low risk.

[1anonymous29]

My finger(s) also penetrated her vagina twice, probably less than one minute accumulative time. My nail beds were dry and cracked from the cold weather and at worst I may have had a hangnail of some sort. I'm worried sick now!!!! Have to wait two weeks for blood test results to come back form the H.D.

[auntiejessi]

Doesn't change a thing.

AJ

[1anonymous29]

Thank you for the reply. My hand was INSIDE her pants though, if that changes any thing...

[TesQu]

dont worry.. her pants still on when u finger her.. that's not much of a risk.

while for kissing/french.. probably u get herpes due to hsv-1, but u probably got that as a child anyway and its not a STD.

mutual masturbation is rated as safe sex, and with your case with the other party still hv her pants on will make it even safer. Some might not even consider what u did is "sex" ..