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risk of STDs from oral sex with "escorts"
I have recently (finally, 3 days ago) faced the fact that I am a sex addict. I have been to 4 meetings with a recovery program, have scheduled therapy with an addiction specialist, and have come clean with my wife.
In my encounters with "escorts" over the past couple years I have received oral sex (fellacio) many times, maybe 8-12 of those times unprotected. More recently, I have GIVEN oral (cunnilingus) probably 6 times, with 5 different women. The last time (which involved both) was about 10 days ago. (I have never had unprotected PIV intercourse outside of marriage, and only once protected, probably 2 years ago).
I went to my doctor on Monday, told him what I'd done (although I think I told him it was only "a couple times", still in denial I suppose), he looked me over, and saw no evidence of any infection (I had no symptoms). He was overall dismissive, thinking it highly unlikely that I had contracted anything, but he poked a q-tip in my penis to do a culture for my peace of mind.
I asked about my mouth (ie, could I have gotten something from the cunnilingus) - all the escorts appeared "clean", I'd observed no open sores or lesions on any of them anywhere, so he brushed it off. I wish now I had pressed him to do more testing.
The culture (which, as it turns out, was only for chlamydia and gonorrhea) came back negative. Then I developed a sore throat, which seems to be going away now. Most likely the sore throat, along with mild headache, is either cold/allergy-related (I am prone to allergies this time of year) or stress-related (I've been having these wild anxiety attacks since my last encounter, which are subsiding since I started getting help).
My questions are: should I go back to the doctor for a throat culture? could I have gotten herpes or something else in my throat? (no sign of anything on my lips or inside my mouth - am I just being paranoid about the sore throat)
And am I at risk for HIV? (the doctor didn't mention it, and the question never occurred to me until later)
I've been married over 30 years, and am hoping to spend the next 30 restoring trust with my wonderful wife.
Thanks so much for any advice you can offer...
In my encounters with "escorts" over the past couple years I have received oral sex (fellacio) many times, maybe 8-12 of those times unprotected. More recently, I have GIVEN oral (cunnilingus) probably 6 times, with 5 different women. The last time (which involved both) was about 10 days ago. (I have never had unprotected PIV intercourse outside of marriage, and only once protected, probably 2 years ago).
I went to my doctor on Monday, told him what I'd done (although I think I told him it was only "a couple times", still in denial I suppose), he looked me over, and saw no evidence of any infection (I had no symptoms). He was overall dismissive, thinking it highly unlikely that I had contracted anything, but he poked a q-tip in my penis to do a culture for my peace of mind.
I asked about my mouth (ie, could I have gotten something from the cunnilingus) - all the escorts appeared "clean", I'd observed no open sores or lesions on any of them anywhere, so he brushed it off. I wish now I had pressed him to do more testing.
The culture (which, as it turns out, was only for chlamydia and gonorrhea) came back negative. Then I developed a sore throat, which seems to be going away now. Most likely the sore throat, along with mild headache, is either cold/allergy-related (I am prone to allergies this time of year) or stress-related (I've been having these wild anxiety attacks since my last encounter, which are subsiding since I started getting help).
My questions are: should I go back to the doctor for a throat culture? could I have gotten herpes or something else in my throat? (no sign of anything on my lips or inside my mouth - am I just being paranoid about the sore throat)
And am I at risk for HIV? (the doctor didn't mention it, and the question never occurred to me until later)
I've been married over 30 years, and am hoping to spend the next 30 restoring trust with my wonderful wife.
Thanks so much for any advice you can offer...
Hey great to hear your okay now.
For anyone reading out there: yea, oral gonorrhea was the only one possible here for performing cunnilingus (however, its pretty hard to get it there). Also its true that a culture taken from the penis will NOT pick up any gonorrhea if it were in the throat.
For anyone reading out there: yea, oral gonorrhea was the only one possible here for performing cunnilingus (however, its pretty hard to get it there). Also its true that a culture taken from the penis will NOT pick up any gonorrhea if it were in the throat.
I went to the doctor for my sore throat. He agreed gonorrhea in the throat was possible, but rather unlikely - it looked more like a sinus infection to him. He assured me that the azithromycin he prescribed for the sinus infection would also knock out any gonorrhea or chlamydia that might possibly be there.
I think I'm okay now, thanks.
I think I'm okay now, thanks.
Thanks, I'm pretty sure the tiny white bumps I saw are fordyce's and have been there a long time.
I DO still have one question. I STILL have a sore throat (seems to almost disappear, then return) with mild headache (seems worst towards the end of a workday).
I went to a clinic that does free HIV testing, just for my peace of mind (it was negative). BUT the STD counselor there told me it's VERY possible to get gonorrhea or chlamydia in the throat from cunnilingus, and have it NOT show up in a culture from my penis. Is this true? Should I see my doctor about the sore throat, and insist he do a throat culture for gonorrhea/chlamydia?
I DO still have one question. I STILL have a sore throat (seems to almost disappear, then return) with mild headache (seems worst towards the end of a workday).
I went to a clinic that does free HIV testing, just for my peace of mind (it was negative). BUT the STD counselor there told me it's VERY possible to get gonorrhea or chlamydia in the throat from cunnilingus, and have it NOT show up in a culture from my penis. Is this true? Should I see my doctor about the sore throat, and insist he do a throat culture for gonorrhea/chlamydia?
You were at low risk for oral herpes from cunnilingus.
That you are HSV-1 (oral) negative does NOT give you immunity to HSV-1 genitally. Be careful with those escorts.
That you are HSV-1 (oral) negative does NOT give you immunity to HSV-1 genitally. Be careful with those escorts.
I don't believe I already have oral herpes. I do get cancer sores sometimes, but I'm not sure if I've ever had an actual cold sore. I did get an expensive blood test a couple years ago (unnecessarily, panicked after an encounter that really wasn't risky), and was told I was negative for both Type I and Type II.
Also now, it's a few hours since my first post, my sore throat seems pretty much gone, but now I have some tingling/burning in my lips... probably just dry? chapped? I'm thinking I'm seeing some tiny white bumps on the corners of my mouth, but they look pretty much like others I've seen before (acne, or maybe just irritation from shaving perhaps) - just the time coincidence (10 days after cunnilingus) has got me a bit spooked. Thoughts.
Thank you again for your patience...
Also now, it's a few hours since my first post, my sore throat seems pretty much gone, but now I have some tingling/burning in my lips... probably just dry? chapped? I'm thinking I'm seeing some tiny white bumps on the corners of my mouth, but they look pretty much like others I've seen before (acne, or maybe just irritation from shaving perhaps) - just the time coincidence (10 days after cunnilingus) has got me a bit spooked. Thoughts.
Thank you again for your patience...
Hello
You should not go back for a throat culture. Herpes in throat is a bit rare. Your sore throat is from what's common, germs, or anything like the common cold or maybe even the flu.
You did give cunnilingus so, of course your going to get germs. But is it STD related? NO. Your test proved this.
Do you know if you already have oral herpes ?
You should not go back for a throat culture. Herpes in throat is a bit rare. Your sore throat is from what's common, germs, or anything like the common cold or maybe even the flu.
You did give cunnilingus so, of course your going to get germs. But is it STD related? NO. Your test proved this.
Do you know if you already have oral herpes ?
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