Stupid mistake, should I get tested

[rick890]

Hi,

three nights ago i engaged in mutual masturbation with another man.  we went back and forth between each others penises twice, and also had some fingering.  when he came he cleaned up and washed his hands before continuing.  I didn't notice any lesions or feel any moisture.  Tonight I have a bit of a tingle on the head of my penis.  I was wondering if the encounter was risky and if I should get tested, or if I shouldn't worry about passing this on to my girlfriend because of the type of encounter it was.  I am almost sick with worry and regret about it.

thank you.

[JessyJames2010]

Yes follow up on it.  If you do have epidiymitis, its not from an STD or from the encounter you posted.  

Somehow I feel if i were to tell you that --"you can get numb arms from your exposure"   WHICH IS NOT TRUE, it just something I thought of randomly.  
-- I feel you would come back and tell us that you have a numbness feeling in your arms.  This may sound silly, but what I am trying point across, you had a ZERO risk encounter for STDs.   We can't help you anymore than that.

[rick890]

i'm not sure about this being caused by anxiety anymore.  im going to see a doctor tomorrow.  Its 3 evenings in a row that it really bothers me, but in the day its really not bad or not a bother at all.  Does that sound like epididymitis?  From what i read it only comes in stds from the std not being treated.  and again in the expert form i read to day that this type of exposure could not have given me an std.  How can it be i have no other standard symptom?  Even this doesn't seem standard, but it cant just be anxiety because its too painful.

[gracefromHHP]

the advanced yoga positions we assume for looking at our genitals and anal area after incidents like this plus the tightening of the groin muscles we do  during all the worrying can also cause this. certainly follow up on this properly as needed though.  

grace

[JessyJames2010]

Yes like you said your anxiety, and yes it's driving it all.  Re-read my initial first post about testing; that you don't need any.   But at this point I see you going to get tested:  

Come back and post your negative test results, I think once you see those you'll feel alot better too.

[rick890]

thanks jessyjames, although i will still get tested your post will really help be get through the time until i see a doc.

also, i just wanted to mention regarding your post.  i personally made a stupid mistake similar to this once before.  i cannot believe i did it again, but thats an issue for me to work out with a therapist.  anyway, my point is that at that time, while i was worried about stds i had periods of testicular pain similar to this one, and the doc said it was anxiety.  anyway all my tests were negative that time.  so it can happen.  the reason i wasnt thinking it was anxiety this time is because i thought i wasn't as worried as last time, which maybe isnt saying much as i was a wreck.  

[JessyJames2010]

Hey thanks for positing this, we often have people complain of testicle soreness, but they don't believe it, that when they are atune to their genitials the feeling can be taken out of context.  I sometimes --here and there get testicular discomfort and people also don't believe that's a pretty much normal feeling and the average non OCD person does not pay attention to this.  I mean common men sometimes squish their testicles when sitting or doing some physical activity of course there's going to be discomfort.   Guilt will make you notice your heart beat, and then you'll think something is wrong.  

The answer to your last question is no.  The pain would be unbearable enough to take to you the ER.

[rick890]

ok, thanks.  i read the list of possible symptoms and I don't have any of them.  Also, Dr HHH said that testicle soreness that isn't accompanied by any sores or pus etc is not an std symptom.  Added to that you and many other people said this was a no risk encounter.  So i don't think this is the cause.  As a last question, do you know if epididymitis would cause testicular pain that goes away after ejaculation?

[gracefromHHP]

it also has non-std causes too. occurring within 9 days wouldn't be unusual.

[rick890]

epididymitis is what i thought too, but i was wondering if its possible after only 9 days.  i read that epididymitis is something that happened when an std is left untreated.  do you know if thats right, or if 9 days is too soon for epididymitis to occur due to an std?  thanks

[gracefromHHP]

you can have epididymitis going on. It can be caused by std's but it's also caused by non-std issues too. if you have testicular pain, follow up on it with your provider. Even though it's a holiday weekend, if they are closed they should have someone covering for them.

[rick890]

me again.  just wondering if an std has the symptom of testicular pain.  Best way to describe it is like they are being squeezed.  I thought it was maybe blue balls initially because I hadnt had an orgasm in over a week, but then after masturbating the feeling came back a few hours later...  any ideas?

std clinic is closed till monday.

[gracefromHHP]

doesn't change my opinion at all.  

[rick890]

sorry, i'll make this my last question.  i just noticed some serious dry skin on my penis, its flaking on the head.  Does this still sound like 'an irritation going on'?  or does it change your opinion.

thanks

[rick890]

Ok, thanks very much grace.  I will do my best not to think about it.  Its silly because if it weren't for that theoretical possibility I would probably not be worried, but I do have anxiety issues so I am being irrational.  unfortunately knowing that doesn't help very much.

Anyway, thanks again grace.

[gracefromHHP]

your provider would've been able to see pubic lice plus it causes a rash that will drive you insane, not tingling.

odds are this is just anxiety and also irritation going on. this was not a risk for std's and not worth any testing.  If you aren't used to having your penis handled by a male, it's a little different from the way that typically females handle it.  also anything this man had on his hands could be causing some minor irritation for you.  Increase your fluid intake and try to keep yourself busy so that you stop thinking about your genitals for the next few days.  Limit the crotch watch to just once a day too.

grace

[rick890]

So i went to the doctor today, and he said i didn't have a rash...  but 72 hours of a mild burning sensation cant just be anxiety.  I wonder if maybe its crabs?  I read that they are from intimate contact which I assume mutual masturbation falls under.  Should I trim the hair do you think?

[rick890]

sorry for the repeat post.  i dont think they are blistres because they appear to be blueish in some lights like veins, but i will see a dr tomorrow to be sure.  if anyone does know if some heretic blistres are string enough to be roughly manipulated without breaking i would be curious to know.

sorry for the multiple post again.

[rick890]

so we I had the tingle has what could either be veins or blisters.  i cant tell.  they are not sensitive to the touch and when my penis is fully erect the disappear.  But the seem a bit like they are filled with liquid, I just don't know if its blod or not.  could this by syphillis or herpes?  would blisters for either of those be able to be roughly manipulated without breaking or hurting?

thank you so much

[rick890]

ok, this symptom has not gone in over 24 hours, should I see a regular doctor or std doctor in your opinions?

[Healthadvisory]

As the above stated, you had a zero risk encounter and you should move on.

[rick890]

thanks, and I appreciate the advice.  really I mentioned my girlfriend because if theres any risk to her i'd like to know, im not looking for advice on the relationship.  thank you so much for your answer, and if anyone is of a different opinion please let me know,

[JessyJames2010]

The encounter was NOT risky and you should NOT get tested.  

We usally do not address infidelity matters, it is not our authority: but I will address the pyscology aspect: I would suggest you consider talking to a therapist about your sexual orientation/curiosity and what it could mean for you, and STDs and your future relationships.