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drunk and now scared
Hi. A few nights back I wasout with some friends. I had way to much to drink and the night became a blur. I remember late into the night leaving the bar and callin an escort. We met up, and I told her I didnt want sex but maybe just to chill or a hand job. Here's he problem. I'm married. Somewhat happily. I absolutely am sick with guilt and hate myself. The next day i wokeup, barely remembered coming home. I checked my phone and texted the escort. Iremembered seein her but not havin any sex. She said we did nothing.i asked her 3 times are you sure until she was annoyed and basically said f-off, we didnt do anything. I am still scared because the night is somewhat blurry that maybe i slipped up. I am feeling so ashamed and thinking really negatively. I went to an sti clinic today. The nurese made me feel a bit better sayin likely nothing happened and my risk was low. I did a urine sample for ghon amd chlam. Waiting on results. She said it would be accurate after 2 days. I'm freakin out that i have hiv or syphilis or hep or herpes or even crabs. I cant sleep or eat. Am i overreacting? Would the escort have any reason to lie and say we didnt have sex if wedid? Ive never called an escort so i am somewhat unfamiliar. I want to grt past this and work on my relationshipwih my wife. Help....please.
Or trich...Just heard of this....Another one to freak out about. Anyone's thoughts?
I hope this question is in the right place. Anyone have any thoughts? Hopefully calming ones. ...
Thanks Vance. I understand nobody can give me a 100% answer. I guess I'm just here for some support. Maybe someone can calm me down a little bit. I feel like the world's biggest loser. Why would I EVER call an escort when I have a beautiful wife at home who I should be giving my attention to and trying to improve our own relationship.
So I wait. Wait for test results, wait for symptoms (none so far..day 4). My chest hurts, my stomach is a mess, my head is light....I can't relax. I just hoped for some realistic thoughts. I truly believe I didn't have sex...it's the blurry part of the night driving me to the brink of insanity, along with my immense guilt.
Can you tell me if the urine test for chlam and gonn are accurate after 2 days. Health nurse says yes but I've read much more saying 2 weeks. Would you suggest testing for anything otherwise? I have no rash, bumps, anything so far. So stressed and quite frankly scared. I feel pretty low right now. I understand you not being able to help me with my problem, just kinda hoping for help through it a bit. I feel a bit lost. Thanks
So I wait. Wait for test results, wait for symptoms (none so far..day 4). My chest hurts, my stomach is a mess, my head is light....I can't relax. I just hoped for some realistic thoughts. I truly believe I didn't have sex...it's the blurry part of the night driving me to the brink of insanity, along with my immense guilt.
Can you tell me if the urine test for chlam and gonn are accurate after 2 days. Health nurse says yes but I've read much more saying 2 weeks. Would you suggest testing for anything otherwise? I have no rash, bumps, anything so far. So stressed and quite frankly scared. I feel pretty low right now. I understand you not being able to help me with my problem, just kinda hoping for help through it a bit. I feel a bit lost. Thanks
Thanks Vance. That does make me feel a bit more relaxed. I'm sure not many would feel bad for someone that's as stupid as me. This is a real eye opener for me. I realize how far from a good guy I am and the work I need to do. I have to trust in myself that I DO remember not wanting to have sex. I am not a drug user. I have to 'assume' that the blurry parts of the night I was not shooting heroin and having unprotected sex. I just can't help but think...what if I slipped. What if I had sex, no condom. It won't leave my mind....and it's eating me up inside.
Everything I've read makes me feel like I should be in the clear, but I don't even want to put my wife at a .0001% chance.
Honestly...I can't stand myself right now... :(
Everything I've read makes me feel like I should be in the clear, but I don't even want to put my wife at a .0001% chance.
Honestly...I can't stand myself right now... :(
That's not the worst idea I've heard and I will likely do that once this storm of anxiety passes. I'm hoping that's sooner than later. I've never felt so low about myself. Didn't think I was "this person". I guess I came here hoping someone would tell me not to worry, everyone makes mistakes and you probably don't have anything. I was grasping for something that may not be there. The worst part is, I don't think I even had SEX!?!?!. I am just so paranoid about what if I did and don't remember?!
I was saying go to a therapist for the anxiety.
If you read again what I wrote was I see no real reason for testing.
If you read again what I wrote was I see no real reason for testing.
Thank you Vance. I appreciate your answers. I'll try to move on or at least calm down.
Both tests chlamydia and gonnorea came back negative after 2 days. Feeling a little bit better. Would you suggest a follow up in 2 weeks? Or HIV test? I'm testing under the assumption I had unprotected sex as I don't remember sex like I said...the night was a blur. I know chances are minimal.
Would you say it's safe to resume normal activities with my spouse?
Would you say it's safe to resume normal activities with my spouse?
Can I ask a question Vance? Is the reason you don't think I require testing because you don't think I had sex or that one unprotected encounter is considered a minimal risk? Appreciate your thoughts.
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