insearch for an answer

[johnjohnson14]

hey i wanted to ask about these small white bump .. kind of looks like a white head on my penis under the pee hole..i mentioned awhileee back how it was examined by about 4 different doctors 1 out of the 4 was my regular doc not a std specialist and they all said nothing . i did use the antifungal cream for a period of time thinking it was maybe a yeast infection but there still there same size and all .. theres 3 of them ... i wanted to know if this was a yeast infection would i be expericing symptoms . because im not .. also would it be safe for my partner to perform oral on me ..i just want to know what can it possibly be and ive been tested and negative so is this non std related .. im just a lil confused.

[auntiejessi]

There is something called asymptomatic viral shedding, which is when the virus is active, but there is no sore present.

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm

[johnjohnson14]

oo i see thank you aj also i forgot to mention . if herpes isnt in salvia how its it giving to one person to another with out a cold sore

[auntiejessi]

Also, the stds that can infect the mouth (gonorrhea and syphilis) are less common than others, like chlamydia and HPV.

Aj

[auntiejessi]

Fewer stds can infect the mouth, so its lower risk.

Aj

[johnjohnson14]

hey . i wanted to know what makes uprotected oral sex safer then unprotected vaginal sex. also why testing isnt always recommneded after oral . thank you

[johnjohnson14]

ok cool i will keep u posted

[auntiejessi]

Yes, her test would be accurate.

Aj

[johnjohnson14]

i honestly have been anxious for answers but i was trying to say i havent let it get the best of me for the most part. i just wanted to know my risk with kissing someone and recieving oral from someone you dont know there hsv1 status . i wasnt concerned about any other std. but like you said the only way to avoid getting it is not kissing someone until they got test done etc. she has gotten test done about 3-4 weeks ago. and her kiss that i am troubled about happen oct. 24  im assuming test would b accurate. the 24th of this month would make 4 months.

[auntiejessi]

Most of the time, a pimple is a pimple - nothing more.  I think you need to talk to a therapist hon.  You say you aren't feeling anxious, and I could be wrong, but you do sound anxious to me, and Grace said you sounded that way to her earlier in this thread.

A cold sore isn't going to be almost invisible.

Hang in there,
Aj

[johnjohnson14]

i would appreciate any further comments you have or advice if not i guess there is nothing else to say and thank you for your time and comments. if nothing else to say i would like to end this thread until further notice thank you aj

[johnjohnson14]

yes we kissed both romantically and just a quick pecking on the lips . i got a almost invisible pimple right under my bottom lip i do not know if this is a oral herpes outbreak or just a regular pimple. it does seem to be a regular pimple but i dont know

[auntiejessi]

Have you kissed her?  If you have, then there is a slim possibility that you have it now, but remember that in order to never get hsv1, you will have to only kiss people who've had conclusive negative 4 month tests.  That doesn't seem terribly realistic, does it?

Aj

[johnjohnson14]

i can see the many people are posting so after you address the last question i asked in the post i would end this thread thank you

[johnjohnson14]

so if anything theres possiblity i have it to now ? well only testing will tell the answer i guess . i will keep you posted.

[auntiejessi]

She might already have it and not know it, which is why she hasn't had symptoms, or she didn't get it at all.

AJ

[johnjohnson14]

lol finding out if she had hsv1 is what i wanted to know. i was just worried about the kiss because the guy i have seen bumps on or around his lips from time to time but like she said she didnt see any at the time and hasnt experienced any still . if she does i am still interested in being with her because the feelings i have i wouldnt leave her over it but maybe take more precautions.
ive grown to realize though how stds are looked down upon by society and to me really shouldnt be things happen..people make mistakes.

[auntiejessi]

Wait - you are this worried about a kiss she had?  

I never thought you were at a high risk from the start.  This is where you have issues with your anxiety - realistically, you don't have anything, and she didn't get anything from a kiss.  

Has all she done is kiss?  If she did, testing isn't necessary unless you want to find out if she has hsv1.  

But what if she does?  Are you not going to be with her?  If you try and avoid everyone who has hsv1, you are going to be very lonely.

Aj

[johnjohnson14]

also aj when she kissed this guy she said she didnt notice any thing on his lips and shes had no types of bumps on or close to her mouth/lips. was she or me at any high risk thank you aj.

[johnjohnson14]

i did say i would also test with her but test might not me accurate for me but will for her since the kiss she had that im worried about happen october 24 or so. but do you think i was in any high risk

[auntiejessi]

I think you should test when she tests if you can afford it, but only because it makes it a shared thing, and not a "I think you have something so test" situation.  

Well, I do leave it out, and sometimes I forget, but mostly its because so many people already have it, and if its been awhile since they've had oral, and they've had no symptoms, its not really likely that they've gotten it.

AJ

[johnjohnson14]

i would like to add that day we had protected sex but she went down 3 or 2 different times each time no more then 5 mins maybe 3 or 2 mins. the most . she did put it in her mouth a couple times and performed oral but like i said for the most part she licked around it because i insisted.

[johnjohnson14]

also aj im not trying 2 insult your intelligance because its obvious you know your things about Stds but when reading other post that ppl describe there unprotected oral sex and they ask what should they be tested for alot of the time you leave out hsv1 is it because you assume they may already have it or the is it the chances of getting it during oral sex are so low ?

[johnjohnson14]

i thought it was the responsible thing to do to. when she tests should i test . and was i at any high risk from the unprotected oral . like i said she licked around more then actually sucking . i dont want to sound so.....but just so you can get a better understanding. thank you aj .

[auntiejessi]

If you are going to be sexually active with this woman, testing is a good idea, and just tell her that you want to be safe, and show her your results, and ask her to test.  Tell her you want to make sure you both are ok.  Its not disrespectful at all - its responsible.

Aj