can't orgasm..heeelp

[Reiherh]

i cant feel good no matter how hard i try (ok maybe thats a little bit of a lie) my boyfriend and i have almost been sexually active for 2 years, during those two years i have never had an orgasm..it feels good each time but never as good as an orgasm is described to be. Is there something wrong with me? ive tried finding things to help boost myself along but nothing seems to work...heeeelp

[lulolarna]

thats good to know, its hard to find guys out there that understand these kind of issues.
we all go through the same things some point in our lives. x

[Raz2009]

that's wicked. Ya I don't make her feel like its weird...im a very optimistic person and keep telling her that one day it will happen.

Glad to know we're not alone!!

[lulolarna]

its perfectly normal dont panic!, most women can never reach orgasm through intercourse and some even through masturbation this doesnt mean that you arent normal or have something wrong with you its just how our bodies work after all we arent robots ya know, ive had.. and still have the same problem today and im in a healthy loving relationship and in love, but the more you feel confident that one day it will come when its ready then you can move on and not worry yourself about it because that is the worst thing you can do, over the years that ive been sexually active ive had a few partners that have found it very strange and made me feel like i was broken and very uncomfortable which isnt supportive at all when you have alot of stress about personal issues like sex, and that makes you stress yourself out even more and makes you doubt that you will ever reach that point of orgasm. ive only started recently to feel that i can soon one day have an orgasm through sex but its very common for most women to have orgasm through sex when they are in their late 30's or 40's but that doesnt mean it will happen that way with you. so take your time and enjoy your yourselves, sex and sexual exploration is all about finding what you like and what your partner likes, and HAVING SAFE FUN SEX! and dont forget to talk to your partner about how you feel, you will feel so much better when you've got it out in the open and discuss your feelings about certain topics like that, it will also bring you closer together too. good luck and hope all is well x

[Raz2009]

You're not alone, my gf and I also enjoy sex just as much as anyone normally would but its like it always feels amazing for me but most of the time it just doesn't feel good at all for her...any suggestions??

[Reiherh]

I have tryed masterbating but i just feel stupid and my arms (lol) arent long enough to reach my hand down there, i want to buy a vibrator when i move out of my parents house otherwise i feel just plain awkward. thank you very much for your advise :)

[sammy73]

Are you able to orgasm through masturbation?  Have you ever tried?

The majority of women cannot reach orgasm just through vaginal sex.  Most need direct clitoral stimulation.  The easiest way is for you to stimulate your clit with your fingers while you are having sex with him.  Once you've mastered this you can buy clit stimulators that attach at the base of his shaft and will rub your clit as he thrusts - works for some folk.

Most (decent) men realise and appreciate the need for a woman to stimulate herself in order to reach orgasm.  It has absolutely nothing to do with his "prowess" as a lover.  If your boyfriend has had little or no experience before you then he may well not know this (it's not something that is ever shown in porn, or written into erotic stories, it's not something anyone ever tells a man until the girl he's having sex with tells him).

You may want to try masturbating on your own until you get the hang of it.  If that is not successful, buy a vibrator and try using that.  Feel free to play with it any way you want, but if you want a vibrator to bring you to orgasm you'll need to apply the tip directly to your clitoris.