Difficulty achieving arousal

[nthngman10]

I'm 30 years old and have a very stressful job. My wife and I have been very much sexually active but however within the last 3 years I have difficulty achieving an erection at times with my wife. I have been with my job now for about 4 years. I believe it's stress related but don't know how to handle it. I have nightmares and barely get any sleep now. I find it hard to tell my wife because I'm embarrassed about the situation and just don't know what to do. Is there any way to get any help in fixing this issue?

[Des_a_rae]

Also I wanted to say please, just be honest with your wife.  I say this AS a wife, I'd want my husband to tell me.  There's so much love, understanding and trust between a married couple and I'm SURE she'll be understanding.  It's something you both could work at together.  I'd want to know if it were my husband.  I wouldn't want him dealing with it alone..we're married and we do things together. :)  NO matter what they are.  Best of luck!! :)

[Des_a_rae]

I'm sorry to hear about your problems as I'm sure not being able to do this is also stressful.  I was looking things up when I came across this web page.  I hope it helps.  I found the "postage stamp test" pretty interesting.  

http  ://www.medicinenet.  com/script/main/art.  asp?articlekey=  51148

Just copy and paste that, minus the spaces lol.  I hope you're able to figure out what's going on and get back to a normal and healthy sex life.