My Husband claims he doesnt know he is masterbating.

[berrysgal]

My Husband recently ( 2 months now ) has been out of the Army. He has been deployed 3 times, enjoyed when he came home from leave so we could have those majical moments together...But since hs has been home for good his is constantly materbating and "claims" he doesnt know he is doing it. I caught him once..Went to change the sheets in the bed and noticed his pillows were a mess. I called his attention to the matter and he said he didnt know how that happen. This morning I found a pair of his silk shorts laying on the floor by his side of the bed, wet, from materbating of course. He claimed he didnt know how the shorts got there ( well I believe they came from the cupboard). If I call his attention to the matter, he gets defensive, says he doesnt know he is doing it and yet when morning comes I find something new ( like the silk shorts ) please help,  I am sure he knows what he is doing. when I told him I was tired of cleaning the sheets, that seemed to stop so he knows he is doing it and is Lieing. I suggested he get help. The other day I found out he had porn on our computer ( which he lied and said he didnt know how that got there ). Our 18 year old daughter lives at home..she is gonna see him doing this some day and I wonder if he will be embarressed then

[turtle21]

(sorry i kep having thoughts on your situation) the calmer you are hen you speak to him, the better. Sometimes, guys need to be talked to as if they are children, when they feel comforted for something, thy tend to be more submissive. Good luck!

[turtle21]

make sure when you speak with him that it's in a private and quiet setting. Perhaps when you're laying in bed together at night, that way after your talk you can have the chance to have sex and engage in some sexual acivity together.
Remember that masturbation is a natural thing, and unless it's a big problem in his life or in your relationship, it shouldn't be a problem at all. The porn, I would hate that too, but some women say it doesn't bother them.... I guess that's something you'll have to talk with him about as well. Tell him your concerns for your daughter. Guys look at porn... plain and simple.

[turtle21]

I understand your concerns, however, he IS a man with his own sexual needs. How often are you having sex? Sex is like a drug, and can be very addicting for some. He is probably embarrassed to tell you that he's been doing this, especially if he's being "caught" but if he was in the army, masturbation was probably his only liberation and obviously the only action he was getting. Once a person masturbates profusely, it becomes a bit addicting and then a hard habit to break.Now, I don't know if he recently came back from a deployment or he's been home for a while.

Sit and speak with him very calmly and in an understanding, not degrading or threatening, way and explain to him that it's ok to masturbate, but to please do it in the shower or bathroom. You may even try to discourage the action by offering him sex rather than masturbation, or saying that it turns you on that he's excited and wants to relieve himself... maybe you could help with him that. After he realizes that he's not being threatened or shunned for it, maybe he won't feel so compelled to do it.