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Sexual Confusion with Depression
After stumbling across a lesbian sex scene on TV I started to question what my sexual orientation is. Since then I have obsessed over this thought. I am unsure as to why I am questioning my sexuality. Is this normal?
Relationship OCD and Sexual Orientation OCD. They say OCD targets what you love the most and it has taken my sex life and relationship to target.
Basically, my head makes me feel like I am gay, but I know I am not. I feel like I should kiss a girl but I don't want to and a week ago I would've never wanted to and I'm not sure why this came up. I was obsessed over HIV, STDs, and then ROCD... Is this HOCD?
My whole life I've also been the girl that loves being checked out by guys and flirted with guys and once I settled down I knew it was this guy I wanted. I have a great fear of losing him, but when I felt depressed I just felt empty. Could these thoughts just be looking for something to fill the emptiness?
When I see girls kissing or more I feel anxious.. Like it's wrong for me. I remember being happy with everything I had before I moved and things fell apart. I look at it and know I'm not.. So why do I wonder about kissing girls? I worry about it. I obsess over it like I have HIV and other illnesses in the past.. Is this the anxiety?
Up until I saw lesbians on TV I have never had a thought my entire life. I watched all of Orange Is The New Black and never once had a thought. Suddenly it has taken over my life and I don't know why.
I have had 0 sex drive or attraction to anyone lately, which is unusual I am usually very sexually active. I have never in my life had a thought about the other sex.. So I am panicking. Never before until last week. It's like one thought goes and the next comes..
It is normal to have thoughts of the other sex and there is nothing wrong with it. Nothing wrong even acting on it and trying something out and if you kiss a girl and don't like it then you have your answer.
But the anxiety and depression can make your mind go into over drive thinking about everything. Get that treated and don't worry over the other part.
But the anxiety and depression can make your mind go into over drive thinking about everything. Get that treated and don't worry over the other part.
I was put onto Zoloft today. The doctor says I am suffering from severe anxiety and depression and am going to do counselling and CBT. She says this could be creating the doubts and thoughts?
I went through a lot of **** at home. I also moved. Not being good with change I don't know how to cope and I am not myself anymore. I had many obsessive thoughts such as having an STDs, not having love for him, but now I know I do so this thought about sexuality basically took over the doubts of love. I've been very confused and apparently I have craved more attention since all the changes. Am I gay? Or just looking for a way out? Is this normal?
ok..I am now wondering myself what this could mean..so by non sexual you mean not 'going past first base' so to speak.....well then kissing a girl would be perfectly ok..,,,and if you want to try it..... it would actually be very normal.....I am not sure how your boyfriend would take that news, if it was me in your shoes, then I certainly would not tell him as it is not worth just a few thoughts to risk spoiling the love that he has for you..and you for him....mmm..let me think for a while about what you have said.
..there are ways to tackle depression..if you think that this may be the reason you are having these thoughts...depression is best cured by help from a loved one, but the hardest thing about depression is recognising it.....You have spotted it....so I think you are half way to being back to your usual happy self...are you in a position to travel to somewhere for a holiday..even 2 or 3 days?
..there are ways to tackle depression..if you think that this may be the reason you are having these thoughts...depression is best cured by help from a loved one, but the hardest thing about depression is recognising it.....You have spotted it....so I think you are half way to being back to your usual happy self...are you in a position to travel to somewhere for a holiday..even 2 or 3 days?
I wonder what it's like to kiss or makeout with a girl. Not to be sexual with them.. I don't find that appealing at all.
it's not that it sexual fantasies.. It's more kissing fantasies.. I couldn't see myself sexually because I don't feel attracted towards female/female sex.
So the feelings of whether or not I would do it or if I would like it are totally normal? When I do think of it I feel like I wouldn't like it, but I'm still thinking... I want my boyfriend through all of it though. Could this be the depression? Is this normal?
Fleeting feelings of ambivalence regarding sexual orientation are normal and healthy. It might be an idea however to talk to a professional counselor. Avoid taking antidepressants if you can at all.
Hi, It sounds like you are a normal hetrosexual girl to me. I think this is pretty normal, we all go through these moments, well most of us, and no if you are in a relationship with a boy you are not gay.
I think it is possibly called bi curious but if you have only had one or two thoughts its like a very mild crush..on whom?...some images on a TV..so in fact not even real...so that would be a mild fantasy...very normal..., as you have not actually kissed or had any physical contact with a girl. some people happily go through life with the right person, but what if that person happened to be the same sex. You will never know until you meet that person, so if you are happy with your current and I am sure lovely boyfriend there is no need to worry about your sexuality....unless you have itchy feet...in which case that is something that will take its course...but we all go through this...even me...Happy to talk more if that helps. Depression is something that should be address as there may be an underlying cause that you can change. look at diet ..there is lots of info available and ways to help yourself lift your moods. If you need to talk we are here.
I think it is possibly called bi curious but if you have only had one or two thoughts its like a very mild crush..on whom?...some images on a TV..so in fact not even real...so that would be a mild fantasy...very normal..., as you have not actually kissed or had any physical contact with a girl. some people happily go through life with the right person, but what if that person happened to be the same sex. You will never know until you meet that person, so if you are happy with your current and I am sure lovely boyfriend there is no need to worry about your sexuality....unless you have itchy feet...in which case that is something that will take its course...but we all go through this...even me...Happy to talk more if that helps. Depression is something that should be address as there may be an underlying cause that you can change. look at diet ..there is lots of info available and ways to help yourself lift your moods. If you need to talk we are here.
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