I don't enjoy sex

[Cava162]

Hi all,

I'm a 24 year old male and have had this problem for a while now. It most often don't enjoy or have the desire for sex. On the plus side it takes a lot to get me to come but with that there is just no 'loving every minute of this' feeling. FOr example I'll be on top and get tired and start dropping in confidence, then just sink into the thinking that i just want to get her off and be done with it. Its happened ever since i started having sex. I have been seeing my girlfriend for the last 5 months and she was actually the first girl that made me come. She is getting rather frustrated understandably. She has a huge sexual appetite and unfortuantely this is putting pressure on me I feel. Because I just don't feel like it or i just roll over and go to sleep. If I gotta be up the next day i just don't want to do it. Its tragic I'm 24 not 64! I hate this thinking and i really feel sometimes there is something wrong with me. I just want to feel that feeling that nothing else matters when you have sex. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[thebetrayedone]

I agree with kelco.  Another thing to consider is anything in your past which may have psychologically affected your ability to climax and have normal feelings during sex.  Could be anything from walking in on your parents as a kid to being raped.  It is good to get them out in the open early on if this is the case.  

[kelco1]

Your lack of sex drive might be due to a low testosterone level.  You should have your MD check this out for you.