I have one month...

[Womanontop]

I have one month to decide if I am going thru with a Tubal. For those of you who do not know that means I am getting my tubes tied. The desision is not final and I would like to know of anyone who has had this done how it has effected your mood and your weight. I am nervous and I do not know what I am getting into other than I will no longer be able to concieve. I am also in a very rocky ten year on the fritz marriage. I am making this descision based on the marriage and not wanting to add additional pressure. Please tell me your experiences. Thanks

[Hope242]

I'm actually glad to hear your putting it off, not because its a bad thing its just your still so young and alot could change for you, you may not feel the same way in a year and when its done(tubal) its done...I had no problems but what was right for me may not be right for you.

[Womanontop]

Hello all. I just wanted to get you all back and tell you i have cancelled the surgery for now. I think with the current life decisions that have been going on in my marriage, I need more time to think about it. I do not need to have anther reason to be depressed. it would not be good. The marriage I am stuck in is doing plenty of that for me already. Thanks again for your voices.

Sincerely,
Woman

[Womanontop]

I am getting closer to the date of my tubal surgery. It is set for the 20th. I am glad I asked because I think I have the confidence to go forward with this! thanks ALL!

[Hope242]

sure...thats not being greedy! I guess I forgot to mention my mood wasn't affected either. Just the normal everyday ups & downs of life that we all go through, I couldn't say having a tubal made those times any different. I do have a 1/4 of an inch scar just below my belly button, but from what I understand there are other methods which would not leave a scar? I don't remember having any serious pain, or the pain meds they gave me sure worked, cause I can't recall it being anything like labor, the pains you never forget you had! A friend of mine as well had a tubal, and she is also happy that she did.
For a little while after the tubal, I do remember feeling different about the fact it would be very unlikely I would ever have another child.

[Womanontop]

Thank you for your comment Hope242. It is helpful because I am concerned with my physical health more then my relationship towards my husband. I realize this is a big deal for me. I have girlfriends still having babies well into their thirties. If my marriage doesn't improve, I most likely will be single in a few years. The stress of it all will most likely keep me single. I have no desire to invest the enormous amount of energy I have already spent in my current marriage in another. The relationships I would probably find myself in would be that of temporary pleasure, if you feel me. So I do not see myself having another baby with another man. I am too exhausted emotionally to start over. As young as I am, I refuse to put my heart on a spit in the fire again. Not going to do. This all if my husband decided to kick me out. Very big possibility being as we have both had a rocky unfaithful relationship for the past 3 yrs. So again, thank you for your facts and opinion. Would I be greedy to ask for more? Every bit helps....

[Hope242]

I had a tubal about 8 years ago, and it hasn't been a bad experience for me. My weight goes up & down all the time, for me I have never had a problem losing weight if I want and I haven't noticed that it added any extra pounds that I couldn't get off.
...as far as my periods, I haven't had any problems there either.
It is a good method of birth control, however Annie is right on that if your in another relationship maybe you may want another child someday.

[Womanontop]

I am still so undecided. I am worried about gaining weight and having terrible periods if I go thru with this. Has anyone had a bad experience from a tubal?

[AnnieBrooke]

I really wouldn't do it.  Try another form of birth control, or just get rid of the man.  So many (I mean, a super-huge number) of the saddest letters on this site are from women regretting their ligation because now they have met the love of their life and want to have a child with him, and can't afford a reversal or IVF.   Just because you're in a rocky, on-the-fritz relationship now does not mean every relationship from now on will be the same.  If it fritzes out, I would take a year or two and simply get grounded again, before taking on any relationships, and then see where you are.  Then get a ligation, if it still matters to you.

[luvloveluv]

i've never had my tubes tied, but i've considered it. but if you look it up, you'll also know that it doesn't guarantee that you won't get pregnant either. my aunt had her tubes tied, and 2 years later, she turned up pregnant with her 5th baby. but if you're asking for weight and mood wise, she gained 25+lbs in the 2 years prior to her pregnancy. i'm guessing it depends on some people, you always here the bad online, never the good, so.