Is he cheating?

[Nick166]

My boyfriend on the road for several weeks for his job but he comes home on the weekends. This weekend he came home and we decided to fool around and I noticed he smelled like seman and it was strong. I asked why he did he couldnt tell me why. I was getting the close ready to do laundry and the underwear he wore that day had white spots all over them like seman stains. Is he cheating. I hate to think that he is. Ive asked him and he gets upset and tells me if he was cheating then. He says if someone has to cheat then obviously they are not happy in their relationship. He has had a very sexual past and I get nervous alot. He is on the road and this has never happened before. Should I question that he is cheating or could it be other things?

[Judy246]

You concern is justifiable, but it can be anything from masturbation or infidelity. If infidelity, you do need to be concern, because you don't know if he has had unprotected sex and come home with potential std's or HIV. Communication and trust are key to all relationships and I suggest that you find the right time to firmly "discuss" your concern and an explanation as embarrasing as it might be for him and for him to come home with stained cloth's is questionable. He probably didn't have spare cloth to change, so, yes, your concerns are justifiable and expect him to give you an explanation, before deciding on the next step. Good Luck, Judy

[Jhnmarton]

Dear Nick661
Semen strains can be found because your BF had a nocturnal ejaculation during his sleep. This happens to men who have not had sex or masturbated for some time.

And the smell of semen when he was aroused may had been there because he got a little overexcited and a small amount of semen had been ejected.

The other explanation could be cheating, so you still need to talk to your BF about it but try to do it gently so that he will not get angry...
Best wishes John