My gf only wants to have sex about 2 or 3 times a month

[nate454]

me and my gf have been together for about 4 years and at the begining we had sex everyday somethimes twice a day. Now she only wants to have sex about three times a month and when we do she wants them to be realy quick. 5 or 10 minutes at the most and shes never im the mood. and im starting to get realy flustrated and i feel like she doesnt want me anymore. I also feel myself drifting away from her because of it and i feel closer to other women then i do to her. I have already talked to her about it and i thought she got the message but as of today its been ten day since we were last sexually active with each other. And she seems perfectly ok with it.....im starting to get feelings that shes cheating on me or she just doesnt want to be with me anymore. i mean im 20 years old and shes 19....we should be having sex way more often....i have my own place and all but i just get no response from her... I have needs so if anyone could help me or could offer any advise i would greatly appreciate it

[xx_Louise_xx]

Hey there, in my opinion u really need to spk to your girlfriend again, and really make her listen and undertand what you're going through. Tell her you're fears of her not wanting you. Maybe there is a reason why she isn't wanting alot of sex, there could be a reason for it. Plz spk to her and express you're feelings. Thats the only thing u can do. Oh and btw, dont pressure her for sex, that will only push her away even more.

[Rich99]

Tossing around different possiblities here.   Males reach their peak right where you are now while females tend to reach their sexual peak in their 30's.    Or she might very well be interested in another relationship.     Or is she under alot of stress from her school or work lately?      Is there things going on in her personal life with family?

[penswriter]

There are tons of reasons why her sex drive could be decreasing. If she's on new medication, switched/started/ended birth control, stress, loosing interest in the relationship, just not in the mood.

Don't pressure her. If you do, she could very well begin to regret you and leave the relationship. There is nothing worse than having somebody nag at you for sex when you just really don't want it.

[Myron_Long]

first thing you need to do is ask her why only sex 3 times a month. if she is worried about getting pregnant, have sex with the lambskin condom. it still gonna feel like bareback sex, well very very close.

[Flavoured]

I think you should be patient with her some more. A lot of women want to know that you not only want them for the sex, you also want their company, and their friendship. Pls don't pressure her because if you do, you may lose her, as she'll be thinking that's all you want from her, sex. I suggest you give her time, and make an effort to put more into the relationship other than sex.

All the best. :) xx