He says he does, but he has never been the one to initiate sex. He was horribly abused as a child, and I do mean in every way imaginable. We have been together for 12 years, and I have been understanding thus far, but I am to a point now where the lack of affection, kissing, cuddling and no sex is making me crazy. I have dreams of faceless men making love to me! I've talked and talked til I am blue in the face. He agrees something is wrong with him, and that it has to do with his childhood, but refuses to get help. I feel my only options are to either shut up and stay and be miserable or leave and I don't want to leave him. We get along great otherwise and have a good relationship. He is honest and trustworthy, does not drink or do drugs, has a good sense of humor. I know my marriage could be much, much worse. I am at a loss of what to do?