My penis size causing problems.

[frank25]

Please, my name is Frank.Am writing from Nigeria. I am concerned with the size of my pennis. My girl friend is not very confortable with a very small sized penis. and we intend getting married very soon. But she complains of the size which does not give her the kind of excitement she wants. And indeed, am worried too, because the size is remarkably small.What can I do, since I love her so much and do not want to loose her. Secondly, she complains that I do not work her up sexually before trying to have penetration into her. These give me much concern. of late, I have not been able to concentrate on my work because of these worries.

Please can anyone help me?

[neils1153]

let me get this,,, she is concerned with your penis size yet she wants to marry you??? sadly some women do desisre a larger penis... although 5.5ish is average there are many women that want larger than that... if its that big of an issue with her, you two might want to realuate your relationship and plans for the future...

[coellin]

hello

if your g/f  love s you tell her to do kegels and tighten up her vagina and she will have control and be able to feel you better

[hldeskin]

There are plenty of great things you can do no matter what size your penis is.  Many women can't get off just from penetration.  Try teasing her to start, massage her for a while (which can be a tease on its own.  Invest in some oils that heat us as you massage) Oral is a great resource for people who need a little more.  If you're a little more opened minded anal can be good (especially if you are on the small size she wont hurt quite as bad and can concentrate more on how good it feels.  take it slow still.  I would think that this would make you feel a lot bigger, too!)  If that still doesn't cut it think outside the box.  Maybe a little bit of leather if thats your thing.  Role playing is a good one.  Be spontaneous and make her feel like its all about her now and then and I promise she wont have any complaints!

[alone and scared]

Buy a dildo! Role play is a good thing.  

[alone and scared]

Buy a dildo! Role play is a good thing.  

[slow_healer]

Try manual stimulation (rubbing, inserting, even thrusting with your fingers) to help her get warmed up. I agree with jml - penis size won't matter once you figure out what works for you both. Does she like massages? Try rubbing the back of her head, her back, her hips when you're starting to feel in the mood. Women's body respond to all kinds of things, and if you're looking to give her an orgasm, all the little things will generally help. Good luck!

[jml1986]

First let me start with the size, I would assume that is under the 4.5 to 5.5 which is usually average when erected. Sadly you only have what you are born with so you need to learn how to use. Penis size is not the only way to reach orgasm. If you are not engaging in enough forplay then I would suggest you slow down and enjoy her body. Orgasms can be achived without penetration and yet you can still both be sexually satisfied. You both need to teach each other what feels good. We all enjoy different things, it is just a matter of you teaching your partner what they are. I think once you know what turns her on, you won't really worry about your penis size.