Not having Orgasm

[aniha9teenot]

I'm a twenty years old girl. I was addicted to porn very much. I used to watch them and dry hump my pillow for orgasm. In that way, I always got orgasms and it felt so good. But in real life, whenever me and my partner have sex, I don't get orgasms naturally. If he gives me oral, or fingers me, I get some pressure on my bladder and nothing more. Sometimes I squirt accidentally but I never orgasm. We tried so many positions and he is good at this point also have a 6.5 inch penis but I can't get orgasms. We are very sad in this topic and I'm searching for a serious help and answer. Did my porn addiction and humping pillow affect my hormones?

[auntiejessi]

Many women don't get orgasms from penetration alone - something like 80% don't.

You didn't damage yourself with the pillows. How long has it been since you were doing that? Are you able to still give yourself an orgasm that way?

Can you give yourself an orgasm with fingers?

Give yourself some time when it's quiet, and see if you can give yourself an orgasm. This will probably be a clitoral orgasm, not internal.

[aniha9teenot]

I can't give myself an orgasm with fingers. I tried a lot. And yes pillow function still works for me and infact it takes 5-7 seconds for me to orgasm.

[auntiejessi]

Okay, so you're still able to orgasm, that's important.

When you say that you were "addicted" to porn - what does that mean to you? Was it interfering in your daily activities? Causing problems in your life? Were you doing it a lot?

I'm not all that concerned with you not being able to orgasm with your boyfriend. You're 20. You're still learning your body. He's still trying to learn how to make women feel good, and even if he's had a lot of partners, he's still young and has a lot to learn.

I'm more concerned with the pressure you might be putting on yourself, and pressure he might be putting on you. Some women can only achieve orgasm in certain ways, and it can take time to find those ways.

It doesn't mean you're broken, it doesn't mean your partner is lacking anything. It's just how women work.

Maybe try toys, or your fingers with lube, or your hand in the way your body would be up against the pillow - just really experiment. Look at it as fun. If you get lube, make sure it's one made for sensitive skin, as others have a lot of chemicals no woman needs.