Penis Problems

[Jocher]

I've been having sex since I was 15 (I'm now 26).  My first girlfriend lasted me 2 years until I was 17.  We mostly did oral and I would NEVER EVER EVER ejaculate.  It just didn't turn me on all that much.  However, 5 minutes in to having actual sex, I would climax easily.  Boy was that a great time in my life.

I didn't have sex for a few years after her for various reasons.  Anyhow, each and every time I've ever had sex since I was 17 has been terrible.  It's always been a lot of fun, but I haven't ejaculated once.  I usually have to just fake it and act like I came in them when I really didn't.  What in god's name is my major malfunction?  I masturbate and it takes me 6 minutes.  I can have sex for 30 and nothing happens...I feel nothing when I'm in a vagina.

Could it be the way I masturbate?  I tend to go real quick with it, which probably doesn't accurately represent the way I have sex.  I can't go slower when I masturbate though, it's just too unnatural and I lose my erection.

Can someone help?  I'm seriously going ape **** here.

[Jocher]

Thanks for the comments guys.  I tried relaxing this morning and it just didn't work...I don't get it.  How do I lose so much feeling when I'm in a vagina?

[kennzz05]

dude  i dont want to sound prudish oh **** i dont know what to say really but yaknow sex used to be about  love,respect and marrage and children now its become a pasttime and i think that really sux love seems to have been taken out of the equation and i feel thats too bad but perhaps subconsiously you have some guilt bcause you were raised beliveing some of the things i mentioned, but overall im sure youll be fine when you meet the person with whom you really click with and want to have a future with and will be able to discuss any and all of your feelings with... good luck

[clara1984]

Howdi

Well, all i can suggest is maybe youve convinced yourself you cant ejaculate during intercourse or oral sex. Maybe like a subconcious thing, maybe you need to not think about it so much and relax a bit more.

Also, perhaps you should ask your partner if its ok to ejaculate somewhere else, so you wank yourself of at the end!? Or bring speed if its speed or tightness into the intercourse environment.

Perhaps you need to show your current partner what you like and what turns you off so you can masturbate together and become more familiar which wants and needs. you might become more comfortable with ejaculating then.

Dont forget stay protected tho just incase and if it continues visit your local gum clinic.

Hope this helps somehow