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Can anyone give me some advice please. My boyfriend had back surgery alil over two years ago and is on pain meds...our sex life just seems to be getting worse, he never wants to have sex anymore n says it has become a "job" he makes me feel unwanted and upset...I am wondering if it's from all the meds he is on or is he not into me anymore? He has become too comfy with me. He has no problem getting oral sex frm me though. Please help.
The culprit may be the pain meds. One of the adverse affects of Chronic Opiate use (Lortab, Percidan, Norco, Oxycontin, etc) is that it can cause Low Testosterone. After 2 years, his use of Pain Meds is Chronic. A simple blood test will show if he has Low T. Good Luck.
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Find out the side effects of drugs he is taking. By this you will know that his sexual anorexia is due to drug's side effect.You may discuss with health care people and find out the real cause. and treatment. If he is coperative you both may find our some exercise to stimulate his libido.Male deer exercise is a good taoist exercise for sexual problem. There is a separate female deer exercise for women.If you research you may find some exercises which may improve sexual performance.The suggestion given on relationship is also quite practical.Wish you best of luck.
Relationships hit this hurdle all the time. Yours is especially harder because yo ur boyfriend had surgery and is on pain meds. He may be feeling down or may be feeling depressed himself. Try talking to him about it and see where his head is at. You can tell him what effect it's having on you and you also should be empathetic to how he's feeling as well. His reaction will give you an idea on how to press forward. Don't come off combative, try your best to be civil, honest and realistic with him.
If you feel you're not ready to talk to him just yet, try something like when you do pleasure him with oral, don't finish. Stop half way through and take control of the situation. He'll either push you off or he'll finish the deed. Again, his reaction will give you and idea on how to move forward.... Just a thought. I'm not an expert I'm just saying:) GOOD LUCK!
If you feel you're not ready to talk to him just yet, try something like when you do pleasure him with oral, don't finish. Stop half way through and take control of the situation. He'll either push you off or he'll finish the deed. Again, his reaction will give you and idea on how to move forward.... Just a thought. I'm not an expert I'm just saying:) GOOD LUCK!
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