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My name is Duane, and I am 20 years old. My girlfriend and I had sex about 3 weeks ago. The unfortunate thing is that I could not orgasm during sex after having sex for about 2 hours. About a week prior, she gave me a handjob and I could not orgasm either. When we had sex, I was a little nervous because she told me that she had herpes. Even with a condom on, I was still afraid and a little worried. As for the handjob, we did it in a parking lot with cars passing so I was nervous as well. Despite this, my impotence during sex made me very worried about my orientation. Every now and then, I get "Am I gay" panic attacks. For my whole life, I have been straight and watch a large amount of straight porn (which I have read could have been another reason for my impotence). I also do have a history of panic attacks throughout my life, primarily in academics. Even though I think I may suffer from E.D. and/or delayed ejaculation, I still have these concerns despite my certainty about me being straight. What is my problem?

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how long have you been with your girlfriend? how many times have you had intercourse? im asking because you wont have one straight away it takes time to learn what you like best, basically practice makes perfect :)
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I've been with her a little over a month, and we have only done it once.
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Yeah if you're anxious type of person which it sounds like you are, then it can be easy to panic if anything goes wrong in sex. definitely in your head especially if you were never concerned about ur orientation before this whole thing
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It's in your head
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I used to take allergy medication like Claritin. Actually, I want to add a little to my post. I got the orientation panics AFTER my failed sexual intercourse.
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Your problem is in your head! it's the Herpes, orientation, panic attacks,
Do you take any medication? some meds. will also cause ED. my guess it's whats in your head
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