any hints on how to enjoy sex?

[Jster]

Can anyone give advice on how to get past certain "hang-ups" and embarasments so to actualy enjoy sex? I have never been able to do that with anyone except my husband, who passed away years ago. We did not have very much sex, tho, and I have not been intimate with anyone for over ten years. I am an inexperienced, and extremely selfconscious person. Recently, I have met someone, and things may progress to this point, where I will probably ruin everything by my hang-ups. So here I am asking for advice! Thanks.

[tiffjune86]

Even the most perfect women in anothers eyes don't see there selves as such. I've seen models with perfect bodies have issues with how they look. Every women has them. My boyfriend and I had a conversation on how we felt our first time and why. After I explained me not being so self insured he said the most breath taking thing. Maybe it will help u. The man u are with is obviously attracted to u and enjoys u not just for apperance but for ur heart and spirt as well. Sex isn't just phsyical its much more. U stay as lovley as ur are and stop second guessing ur self! No one is perfect but u are u can not be anyone else should want to be. Start pointing out what u like and love about ur self and flaunt it. Curl the hair and put on a sexy out fit and bo matter what love and look at ur self as though ur sexy and he will think so too.

[Jster]

Thanks, all good advice. Now if I could put it into play! I am just very selfconscious of my body. I am 55, and not fit. I know guys need the visual thing, but I don't think what he sees is going to do much for him. It has always been a problem for me, even when I was younger and cuter. I worried so much about my body image that I could not enjoy myself. I would just as soon do it in total darkness! Besides, after ten plus years, I feel very inexperienced, not confident. Well, time will tell! Thanks.

[aamyjackson84]

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[gymdandee]

Gotmoxy is 110% correct!! If you don't think the man isn't going to be nervous you're wrong and he'll have hangups I guarantee It

[Gotmoxy]

What are these "certain hang-ups" you speak about? Is it just that you are not comfortable being undressed in front of another man? There is nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to enjoying yourself during intimacy. You have that right.  I'm sure the man you're seeing is just as nervous as you are. When it comes to your next date with him, make sure you wear your best outfit, be well groomed in all areas, and act completely confident, even if you aren't so. Confidence is really attractive to men and makes them want to seek out that mystery in women. All you need to do is concentrate on letting yourself be pleasured. Don't think about the "What if he doesn't like this or that". Pretend like you don't give a damn. He can take it or leave it. Once you let yourself be pleasured, he will notice, and he will enjoy himself. I have places on my body I am selfconscious about. I've had a child, and I have stretch marks and so on. When I first began dating my partner, I was really nervous when it came to intimacy. But, a thought struck me that why should I care? If he doesn't like what he sees, then he can **** off, and it's not meant to be. I let myself go and really enjoyed myself, and he did too.