can guys tell if u r not a virgin?

[pal1986]

can guys tell if u r not a virgin?

i'm 22 n my parents r already forcin me to get married... but after college n all dat fun i'm no longer a virgin(my parents'll will freak out if they come to know dat)... in my place guys too dont lyk 2 face dat fact... i had my intercourse 5-7 times... it hurts me to think dat i might be cheatin on some virgin guy... but i'm afraid to speak abt it to anyone... i wud not like 2 start my lifelong matrimonial relationship on a lie... wat do i do???

[fung]

I don't think guy can tell  for sure you are a virgin or not. Since you are living in a country with 'virgin issue' and if you cannot object the marriage, dont speak about your losing virginity to anybody. You act like a virgin. When doing sex first time with your husband, just let him do it on you. Don't show your experience : )  About blood, some women dont shed blood, it's anatomy- you can tell him that.

[pal1986]

me comin from india... i'm not exactly sure... i didnt bleed much then... just few spots here n there..
i dont know wat kiegels is...
sex toys r out of my reach... anyway thanx fer tryin 2 help...
thinkin about being athletic... i ws the national bronze medalist in my 12th grade n did a lot of long jumps... can i blame it on them???
n Sam now dat i'm lookin upon u as my oldr pal... wats da worst dat'll happpe if i tell the truth??? cos dis thing'll always ***** me...
thinkin of the brightr side the guy i slept with migrated to australia 3 yrs back n ya i had sex only with him... gotta blame da horribl day i ws drunk... n thn bcos i had it once i thot it wudnt hurt 2 hav more....

[pal1986]

well i practice karate n yoga n i cycle...

[SeriousSam]

Most guys are clueless, reading the other reply... lets go from here.

1) Do the kiegels.
2) Get a sex book, preferably one that includes a section on how to prepare yourself for your first time, if questioned say you wanted to learn to prepare yourself for him.  Bookmark that section with your reciept etc. et al.
3) If your religion allows get a small sex toy, don't use it but blame accidentally breaking your hymen on that.  Unless your athletic and run a lor or horseback ride.

This whole virginity thing just annoys me as quite honestly sine it is massively over rated.

[SeriousSam]

Which country are you in?  The tests of that may vary.  Also in some european countries there are docs who specialise in that type of reconstructive surgery?

Also if you do Kiegels an insane amount of times building up and practice control of those muscles he won't be able to tell. Otherwise is there nontoxice fake blood or someway of doing fake spotting?

[jml1986]

Yes guys can tell, but the sad thing is girls can not tell if guys are, they just have to take their word for it, and to be real honest, most guys may say they are, but they really are not.

[tarrah87]

yes guys can tell if a girl is a virgin or not.