My spouse and I have been together for 8 years. Lately, I've been more sexually motivated. I am 34 years old and it's always been about my husband becoming satisfied. I partially blame myself because, I've allowed this for 8 years. Now that I am at my peek.. I want and need more. He does not do any oral. I brought a toy and doesn't want to use it on me. He stated that If I brought the toy, he would try it out. Not hardly! I cannot remember the last time he gave me an orgasm. He is a Good man and a Great father.. But, what am I suppose to do? Get my stimulation from a toy. Sometimes it's o.k.. But, not all the time. He seems as though he is scared and hasn't had a lot of experience in this matter. However, with me I've had and them some with men who taught me and vice versa! Prior to our relationship... I am frustrated and horney @ the same time. What should I do? Where should I go? But, the main question is how will my marriage survive IF he does not help us? He does NOT see the importance in this matter. Your advice is greatly appreciated in this matter!