Told Not To Masturbate Cause It's Dangerous

[Alex18]

My mum found me rubbing my penis into my pillow, I was trying to be discrete and thought she was out, it was so embarrassing.  I finally got chance as privacy is scarce since I share a room with my younger brother, then I had to go and got caught!  I know my parents have strong views about this, she really shouted at me and told me I shouldnt do it at all. I have been trying to avoid doing it again but I cannot sleep because my penis is erect and I am dying to. My mother doesnt know what its like for me with a hard penis and I cannot talk to her. I am now afraid to do it; a) in case I get caught again and b) if there is any truth in what she say's health wise.  I am very shy about this sort of thing, and my brother once said to our mum that he saw my sheets moving in the night, I over heard him telling her and nearly fell over with embarrassment.  If I get up to go to the toilet in the night I hear movement in the house so I cannot even play with myself there, its a nightmare.  My balls are starting to ache so I have to try and do it in the daytime.  I have tried not masturbating but I cant help it, how can I make them understand and stop checking up on me!

Please advise, what will happen if I dont relieve myself, I seem to be permanently erect!

Alex

[iam1butterfly]

The danger is not in the act; but, getting caught in the act.
So, what you need to do is to be creative and find time alone to exercise this perfectly normal and healthy need to masturbate. One way is to do it when everyone's asleep. Or, as has been suggested, in the shower area. So, it's just not location; it's timing. And, at some point, I'm sure that you'll figure out a system that works for you. Good luck!

[lbv2010]

it is not dangerous if your mother said that she is just saying she doesnt want you to do it. But I do it its fun, and normal so don't think you are strange for doing it.

[kittengamer]

I don't mean to ridicule your parents or demean their beliefs, but you have to do what you have to do. There is nothing unhealthy with sexuality. It is part of biology hon. Sexual paranoia is just as unhealthy as sexual obsession. BigRed is right, masturbation is a lot better of an alternative than sleeping around.

If it continues to be a problem with them, then tell them you want to see a doctor & you want them to go with you. You are experiencing physical discomfort & that is not something they should take lightly. If they refuse, then fight it. Demand it. They cannot deny you the right to address health concerns.

Good luck hon & like most have already said, use the shower.

[puppypusher]

I feel for you my friend.If you share with your brother how about waiting until he's asleep and then while lying on your back just go ahead and quietly play with yourself and once successful immediately wipe with tissue and see how that goes.

[Kat2301]

There's nothing wrong with you, I wish I could talk to your mom, I am a girl, and I understand that guys need to relieve that.... Just do it in the shower like these guys said, and don't be embarrassed, it's completely normal.... There is no moral wrong there dear

[shay69]

hunny do it in the shower it feels good and u can get some relief. no it wont cause any issues just make u feel better. when was it actually made up it was wrong anyhow! do it against the door to the bathroom with a towel around u if theirs no lock so as to not get caught. lol been there done that lol good luck with getting one rubbed out!

[severin76]

It would be good to find some "privacy", your parents and relatives cannot keep an eye on you non-stop, you need some private space, something like going to the toilet, having shower etc if not anything more, so I would recommend to masturbate and get the relief during these moments of "privacy".

[Alex18]

This is getting worse my parents are still dead set against masturbation, my wet dreams are getting worse now.  I can occasionally do it but I have to be careful, one morning I set out on my bike (with aching balls), slipped in the saddle which nearly killed me so I was in pain for a while down there as well as the urges.  Worst time is in the morning, I cant masturbate cause my brother is around and then I cant pee cause Im hard, sometimes I have gone out desperate to pee and had to find somewhere private for a while.  They have made me paranoid about this, I am trying to control it but I cant.  Is there anything I can take to help calm the urges!  We are going on a family holiday soon and my female cousin is going, who is also very flirty and fit, in my state I am going to want sex with her, especially if she is parading round in a tiny bikini :-(

[severin76]

Hi,
masturbation is natural and healthy, so it is not very clever from your parents if they make you feel guilty because of your natural needs and natural behaviour. You can read also information on masturbation in Wikipedia, it shows many health benefits etc...
I´d say that the only problem is the attitude of your mother or the lack of privacy. If I were you, I´d try to find some place/time/space where you could masturbate without stress and without fear of being caught.
In the past centuries there were many false myths and taboos about masturbation, parents and teachers had quite drastic methods how to prevent boys (and girls) from masturbating, and it led to useless torture and pain (physical as well as mental). Hopefully, this period of history is over and now we know and also scientists can prove it that masturbation is natural and normal.
You don´t have to feel guilty or ashamed. You just need to find some free space where you wouldn´t be disturbed...

[Alex18]

hi, thanks mate, I am just so embarrassed now after being caught, she saw everything and I was in full swing too, I have done it a few times in the shower cause I have had to but I am very self conscious as I was in there for ages once and my dad banged on the door for me to hurry cause he was desperate for the loo, I had to stop!   My mum hasn't seen my penis since I was a toddler, then I go and get caught with a full erection!

[bigred52]

Alex, Masturbation is very healthy. At your age, alot of guys are trying to see how many girls they can sleep with, which in this day and time can be dangerous from an STD point of view. Tell your Mum, it's much safer to do what you're doing, it's actually good for you, you will be much happier and you won't go around banging into things with your permanent hardon. Try doing it in the shower. You won't mess up your Mum's pillows and sheets.