Not to get into the nitty gritty details but how much is all the time? Do you literally mean all the time?
There's nothing wrong with having a healthy sexual appetite but if you want to have sex 3 or 4 or 5 times a day this usually isn't practical for reasons other than your partner having a low sex drive.
Are there any reasons you can think of for why you might feel "addicted" to sex? Any childhood abuse, anything like that?
You can make this work for a while but eventually unless either you suppress something, or unless he can get in better shape there are eventually going to be problems.
Sex and sexuality are all too often tied up in how we see ourselves and how we express ourselves. You guys can probably work things out but it most likely will by trying to work together play together in some manner.
Just a thought.
1) BOTH of you learn how to do competent and non sexual massages. Ideally use walnut or other type of organic oils that absorbs beautifully in to the skin. Massage is an excellent way of learning a partners body that is non-sexual, and yet good for building a physical and if done well emotional ties. The sexual will gradually build from this. Keep in mind that both sexes need foreplay but almost always only one partner gets what they need.
2) Exercise together, particularly partner assisted stretches. People don't have to be touching each other constantly... but if you do in private in manners that are non-sexual it almost always has a potential of being sexual. If people are aware enough to consider that sex is a potential even without having sex then the thought in the background will often make them feel more sexual.
Never underestimate the power of touch. Being primates it is one of the main ways we interface with the world without touch at the critical parts of our lives their is even a greater potential for psyches to twist and turn in odd directions.
I think that you shouldn´t feel bad for having a high sex drive, even if your sexual desire or sexual apetite goes far above "average"... But I admit that there can be some problems related to 1.practical issues (organisation of time during the day, other activities interfering into your desire etc) and 2.the discrepancy between your desire and your partner´s sexual apetite (frequency, preferences etc...).
In addition to this, it is quite possible that the discrepancy mentioned in point 2 can just increase your desire and decrease his desire. The more you will feel unsatisfied, the more you will think about sex and crave for sex and the more he will feel under pressure, the less desire he will feel.
It might be extremely difficult to solve it with regard to mutual satisfaction (in my case, I never succeeded in it with my less sexual ex-partners and for me things got solved only when I started a relationship with a similarly hypersexual woman whose levels of desire are similar to mine). Maybe it could help if your partner did not refuse you sexually but tried to satisfy your needs at least via non-coital sexual activities, when he does not feel "in the mood" for sexual intercourse, he may help you at least with oral sex, manual sex etc so that you would find some form of sexual gratification as often as you need or at least close to your desired frequency. Instead of refusing sexual intercourse he could try to find some other sexual "substitutes" which might help you to feel satisfied. In combination with masturbation it might bring some relief.
In order to prevent any other emotional problems, I think it is very important NOT to blame yourself and NOT to fall into the trap of self-accusations that there is samothing wrong" with you if your sexuality transgresses some statistical norms of general populaion.
I wish you good luck and a lot of pleasure and satisfaction.
Does no one ever appreciate very gradual seduction (as the other person does not know what is going on?) and nonverbal communication?
we have spoken about it at lengh he does have a slight medical prob that prevents it often ,
but we knwo each other well and are working around it ,
i just feel that i am the only woman i know with such a sex drive so hence yes i do feel very abnormal,
You do know you can have sex without intercourse that might meet yours and his needs?
oh yes i know that ,
i do try not to worry about it to much when we are together because i refuse to put pressure on him ,
Let me rephrase that. Is his equipment broken, heart problems or what? Because honestly I was running a many years ago and ran into a waist tall concrete pole. My entire tacklebox was repainted black and blue for one month of deep muscle bruising.
I had desire A great deal of it as a matter of fact as I have been always a bit hot blooded but but the solution we had at the time involved massage oral sex for her and lots of touching. A guys body is loaded with tons of erogenous zones just like a woman's is and a large portion of them are above the waist.
You can still have sexual relations but is it a matter of function or desire?
ouch that sounds awefully painful ,
yes it all works just sometimes find it hard to sustain an erection ( excuse the pun lol)
he has suffered from depression which doesnt help at all.
oh i know how to turn him on its a case of weather taht leads to anything else lol.
are you all working now ?
3 kids later...
Definitely though my stamina is pretty much like yours I think in finding sustainable partners who don't get depressed or boring. My problems tend to be on the opposite end of the spectrum than your partners.
Why can't he just not worry about penetration and stick to his oral exams? If you all remove the pressure of performance and make it a thing where he leads the way on what will be on the menu everybody should be getting enough. And you can lead the way on how often the meals are served?
I TOTALLY AGREE ,
but he feels under pressure so i try and stay away if you know what i mean, ?
If you don't reach a balance or accommodation one or both of you will be depressed. until something breaks,