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masturbates experiences pain before she cums
basically when my girlfriend masturbates she feels like she wants to cums but she cant because she experiences pain before hand so she has to stop, so can you please help me out as im doing this on here behalf
I got a book once about the female orgasm that was much helpful, had tips such as pee a few minutes before and after intercourse, and that it can be easier or harder to reach orgasm or have a longer orgasm depending on which day of your monthly menstrual cycle you are in. (Birth control can also change the type of orgasms) Without knowing what KIND of "pain" or the severity of the pain, one could not possibly know the correct answer.
Three possible answers come to mind:
i) go to a medical family physician or an OBGYN and inquire about an internal exam, it could be something simple or complex, for example, during one of my pregnancies the doctors/nurses/midwives all noticed my cervix was tilted making it hard to find or while orgasming the uterus contracts maybe it is the onset of this contraction that is the cause of the pain
ii) go to a therapist, sometimes a deep hidden secret or subconscious issue prevents your body from a true orgasm, the mind is a powerful thing that sometimes we our selves can't fully control, it might be something you are not yet aware of
iii) fear factor, face the fear, decide not to stop, even if that means saying out loud while you have sex or masterbate I am going to have an awesome orgasm sounds stupid but repeating the words will keep your mind on achieving the goal and not the pain, think of the pain as something that must happen but has a good outcome for example getting a tattoo, going to the dentist, giving birth, they are all painful to some degree yet have a good outcome, try turning your head to the side and biting or sucking on your arm, having your boyfriend gently spank or whip your bottom or use nipple clamps, make the pain a turn on instead of a turn off, own that pain and use it to your advantage to have kinky sex, my current husband is a bit on the bigger than average size and often I have short tinge of pain during a long enjoyable session of love making and sometimes I will be tender for a day or so after but it is always worth it because I have never had such amazing sex with anyone else so a small amount of pain mixed in with tons of extreme pleasure is worth it to me
Whatever the issue I hope you figure it out and find a solution
Three possible answers come to mind:
i) go to a medical family physician or an OBGYN and inquire about an internal exam, it could be something simple or complex, for example, during one of my pregnancies the doctors/nurses/midwives all noticed my cervix was tilted making it hard to find or while orgasming the uterus contracts maybe it is the onset of this contraction that is the cause of the pain
ii) go to a therapist, sometimes a deep hidden secret or subconscious issue prevents your body from a true orgasm, the mind is a powerful thing that sometimes we our selves can't fully control, it might be something you are not yet aware of
iii) fear factor, face the fear, decide not to stop, even if that means saying out loud while you have sex or masterbate I am going to have an awesome orgasm sounds stupid but repeating the words will keep your mind on achieving the goal and not the pain, think of the pain as something that must happen but has a good outcome for example getting a tattoo, going to the dentist, giving birth, they are all painful to some degree yet have a good outcome, try turning your head to the side and biting or sucking on your arm, having your boyfriend gently spank or whip your bottom or use nipple clamps, make the pain a turn on instead of a turn off, own that pain and use it to your advantage to have kinky sex, my current husband is a bit on the bigger than average size and often I have short tinge of pain during a long enjoyable session of love making and sometimes I will be tender for a day or so after but it is always worth it because I have never had such amazing sex with anyone else so a small amount of pain mixed in with tons of extreme pleasure is worth it to me
Whatever the issue I hope you figure it out and find a solution
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