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position help or is there something else wrong
can someone please tellme what is wrong, when i have sex with my husband, it doesnt matter what position we try its always the same for me, it gets worse when we try woman on top or doing CAT as they are meant to rub your clit, but on me nothing touches me there ever, and we cant figure out why
Hmm.. If you don't get wet then you may need to find a specialist in the us.. I mean it's like you have female ED... Minus the penis!
no i dont get aroused, i dont get wet either, do i think during sex? nope think about what? and yes we have seen a sex therapist, she was as much use as a chocolate fireguard. i.e. useless but we couldnt go and see another because their isnt any others for us to see, esp on the nhs. we are in the uk
Aroused yes! Do you get aroused? Do you think during sex? Have you two seen an actual sex therapist?
yes we have got many books about this and yes in theroy i know where its meant to be, it just doesnt work on me thats all.
do i excersise, erm nope not as such although i dont live a sedate life, as i have 2 puppies here now and before that i brought up 3 kids so i never sit down for long, how horny do i get? erm what is neing horny? is that aroused? i dont know what being aroused is.
as for the doctors, i have been many times but they dont give any help here regarding any of this, they just pass you around from one doc to another. no one actually does anything tho
do i excersise, erm nope not as such although i dont live a sedate life, as i have 2 puppies here now and before that i brought up 3 kids so i never sit down for long, how horny do i get? erm what is neing horny? is that aroused? i dont know what being aroused is.
as for the doctors, i have been many times but they dont give any help here regarding any of this, they just pass you around from one doc to another. no one actually does anything tho
Listen....I have read all the postings. and if you cant give yourself an orgasm you need to see a doctor.. because YOU are doing something wrong. mainly if a female cant put her self thru such a great feeling it's not the man.. you have to bring yourself to want something so great that you can achieve it with out trying. Like having sex vs making love is one of the ways people cant achieve such a feeling. health is an issue also.. like do you exercise? what do you eat? how horny are you when you have sex.. Heck are your feet cold? i mean many thins can stop you from having an orgasm!
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Have you ever thought about getting any books on sex and female anatomy? It kind of sounds like you have'nt found the "spot" that gives you an orgasm.
dont you think we have tired all the known positions but without any sucess?
we have done the woman on top thing and it fails everytime, due to no contact with my clit at all, same as anyother postion really, nothing ever touches it, and even when my husband uses his hand or we try with a vib still nothing happens, there isnt any sensation at all going on, even with the vib at best it just does endless buzzing til i get fed up and turn it off!!! he then just cums and then we just veiw it as yet another failure for me.
we have done the woman on top thing and it fails everytime, due to no contact with my clit at all, same as anyother postion really, nothing ever touches it, and even when my husband uses his hand or we try with a vib still nothing happens, there isnt any sensation at all going on, even with the vib at best it just does endless buzzing til i get fed up and turn it off!!! he then just cums and then we just veiw it as yet another failure for me.
it is very interesting to read this thread, well one has to make own position that will make you reach your goal of acheiveing orgasm, i am married for quite some time , the only way my wife is able to orgasm is when she is on top, so my advice will be to try and find the best position for yourself.
good luck
good luck
not sure what your asking really, do you mean does he tell me he loves me, then yes he says that at times, other than that no we dont talk much about anything really, not things that matter anyhow, just the run of the mill stuff like what do you want to eat and how did things go at work type of conversations, but if your meaning do we talk during sex? no never other than ouch or move this way or that leg over there please.
I have a different question, based on what you said above - do you and your husband talk at all? I mean really comunicate and love, and share endearments and silly things that you did/said when you were first in love? I don't think you are posting fake notices, I just think you may need to look at the issue from a totally different perspective! Sex is as much mental and emotional as it is physical. Sure lots of people can f**** and enjoy it, but for 2 people who really love each other and really want to experience sex as a healing and emotionally supportive as well as physically satifying act have to communicate on so many different levels to make it worthwhile
tried so many times to woman on top and not one thing ever comes near to rubbing my clit then, i cant see how on earth it would either as the gap is just to big, even if he places his hand flat on himself then i still cant feel anything due to the gap being to big
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I don't think you are fake at all. I also had that problem with my husband, We've been married for 10 years and for the first 8 years I didn't have an orgasm while having sex, I had my first one last year! I couldn't believe it!!! but I did enjoy sex evry time even without orgasm and I had them via masturbation, but not during sex? Anyway, last year it happened while I was on top and I leaned forward while at the same time opening my legs a little, this will make you rub your clitoris at the same time (sorry if it is too much info) but maybe this will help you. Also don't give up on masturbating it's healthy and a real way to find your sensitive spots...good luck!
I don't think you are fake at all. I also had that problem with my husband, We've been married for 10 years and for the first 8 years I didn't have an orgasm while having sex, I had my first one last year! I couldn't believe it!!! but I did enjoy sex evry time even without orgasm and I had them via masturbation, but not during sex? Anyway, last year it happened while I was on top and I leaned forward while at the same time opening my legs a little, this will make you rub your clitoris at the same time (sorry if it is too much info) but maybe this will help you. Also don't give up on masturbating it's healthy and a real way to find your sensitive spots...good luck!
Some people are after sympathy. I just saw a show about it - people claiming all sorts of disorders so others come and try to make them feel better. Munchousen syndrome or something.
i said that i couldnt put the thermometer in me!! the only way that he could have done that would have been to guide it in place using his finger, that would of course give it a false reading, it would have picked up his finger temperature aswell. and lets be honest, although finding my insides to be what he called cold, the fact remains that he had his finger in there and is any man likely to say hang on a mo love im just going to take your vagina temperature as its cold inside, or is he going to continue with what he was doing and hope he manages to get further and more out of this attempt? i think a thermomenter is the furthest thing from his mind at that time!!
I wil apologize for calling you fake but reading everything between your posts the storys do not add up. He can put a finger in you but not a smaller thermometer? Take a step back and read and see how we thought it was fake. I think you will see it.
have you ever thought that a person could be so afraid to even put a thermometer in there? yeah ok he cant manage with a lot of difficulty to get inside me but i certainly cant put ANYTHING regardless of size in there,
why am i inconsistant? ive said i have pain with sex, ive said that i dont orgasm at all, ive also said i dont get anything out of having sex with him other than being squashed pokked prodded and rubbed, so just how does that make me a fake?
why am i inconsistant? ive said i have pain with sex, ive said that i dont orgasm at all, ive also said i dont get anything out of having sex with him other than being squashed pokked prodded and rubbed, so just how does that make me a fake?
el_em, even better than that -- there is a poster on another forum that first said his 'equipment' went around in a circle when it was aroused, and then volunteered that he had three testicles and was interested in having one removed because of their appearance. I hope they don't remove his posts, he's too creative.
Vance, I was pointing out inconsistency, for sure, but was asking if she was for real, not saying she isn't. Sometimes inconsistencies don't mean trolls. I had tried to answer her other post in which she said her husband told her that her vagina was cold to the touch (a fact she said he ascertained by putting his finger in it). I suggested she take her vaginal temperature, to see if the problem was really her vagina or if it was her husband's perception. She responded that she could not even get a thermometer into it, and another poster said if her husband could get his finger into it, why couldn't she get a thermometer into it? That is when I found this, where she says she's been having sex with him for 28 years. A penis being obviously bigger than a thermometer, this not unnaturally reinforced the question of why a thermometer would be impossible to insert. I don't say everyone on the site who is inconsistent is a faker. (Though someone wanting me to believe that a guy who had three testicals would find it a problem, does push the limits of my credulity.) But it did make me ask.
Vance, I was pointing out inconsistency, for sure, but was asking if she was for real, not saying she isn't. Sometimes inconsistencies don't mean trolls. I had tried to answer her other post in which she said her husband told her that her vagina was cold to the touch (a fact she said he ascertained by putting his finger in it). I suggested she take her vaginal temperature, to see if the problem was really her vagina or if it was her husband's perception. She responded that she could not even get a thermometer into it, and another poster said if her husband could get his finger into it, why couldn't she get a thermometer into it? That is when I found this, where she says she's been having sex with him for 28 years. A penis being obviously bigger than a thermometer, this not unnaturally reinforced the question of why a thermometer would be impossible to insert. I don't say everyone on the site who is inconsistent is a faker. (Though someone wanting me to believe that a guy who had three testicals would find it a problem, does push the limits of my credulity.) But it did make me ask.
What an odd topic to post a fake-thread on...
I can think of a MILLION other things that I'D personally post a fake thread on:
1) My penis is too large and won't fit inside my wifes vagina
2) Whenever women look at my penis, they tell me I should be in pr0n movies
3) I've had 1,000's of sexual partners and they all tell me I'm the best they've ever had
4) How can I make my penis smaller... it's TOO big
5) When I 'go down' on women, they orgasm almost instantly. How can I stop this from happening?
See? Now THOSE would be some fake threads to post about!!!
LMNO
I can think of a MILLION other things that I'D personally post a fake thread on:
1) My penis is too large and won't fit inside my wifes vagina
2) Whenever women look at my penis, they tell me I should be in pr0n movies
3) I've had 1,000's of sexual partners and they all tell me I'm the best they've ever had
4) How can I make my penis smaller... it's TOO big
5) When I 'go down' on women, they orgasm almost instantly. How can I stop this from happening?
See? Now THOSE would be some fake threads to post about!!!
LMNO
In another post, you claimed that you cannot get anything into your vagina, not even a thermometer or a tampon, and that you scream in pain during a gynecological exam. This is pretty inconsistent with your whole thread here, where you say that "every time you have sex with your husband," you have to use lube and so on. The fact that you are knocking down everyone's answers on this thread and it is inconsistent with what you are saying on another thread makes me wonder if you are for real or just goofing around with the posters on the site.
im not really just interested in orgasm tho at this point but just to feel something, the sort of thing the rest of you describe as pleasure would be a start, and seeing as i dont get that bit its expecting a bit much to learn to orgasm isnt it?
Some women can not orgasm. Studies have been done and shown that some women no matter what just can't have an orgasm.
ok so if after trying for the past 8 yrs to get myself to orgasm and each and every time being totally a failure, what would you suggest to do then? because doing it myself just isnt working at all
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