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sex hurts
my boyfriend wants to have sex but i'm never in the mood. ill try to do it just to make him happy but it hurts me really badly . we don't use condoms (i'm allergic to latex) and we don't use lubricant i'm scared ill be allergic to that too. why is it that sex hurts me ALL the time, even when i am in the mood , it should be enjoyable. should i be worried?
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visit kegel exercises. You and your boy friend can do these exercises.Both of you can kegel each other. It will help you to understand your problem.
kegeling each other gives you different type of orgasmic sensation. This will help you to reduce pain or even have painless intercourse. Kegel exercises are detailed well in many websites.Explore.i wonder whether you have consulted your gynecologist. this may help if there is some minor irregularity in genitals.
kegeling each other gives you different type of orgasmic sensation. This will help you to reduce pain or even have painless intercourse. Kegel exercises are detailed well in many websites.Explore.i wonder whether you have consulted your gynecologist. this may help if there is some minor irregularity in genitals.
Well some people really are just physically incompatible. Can't really say if that's the case but if you're a petite girl and he's on the large size penis-wise it may be that you just "can't take it" for lack of a better way of putting it. Sometimes the pieces just don't fit.
You can certainly try to make it work though. The more relaxed, comfortable, and aroused you are should make it easier and if you experiment with different positions you might find one that works for you. Some women find being on top works the best as it allows them to set the depth and the pace of things.
I'm not really aware of a way to get wetter other than being aroused and using store-bought lube.. I mean.. how wet do you really need to be? :-)
Take your time and go slowly, see if you can't find a position and a rhythtm that works for you guys. If you can't then there's plenty of other sexual things you can do with each other that can be just as fulfilling and enjoyable.
You can certainly try to make it work though. The more relaxed, comfortable, and aroused you are should make it easier and if you experiment with different positions you might find one that works for you. Some women find being on top works the best as it allows them to set the depth and the pace of things.
I'm not really aware of a way to get wetter other than being aroused and using store-bought lube.. I mean.. how wet do you really need to be? :-)
Take your time and go slowly, see if you can't find a position and a rhythtm that works for you guys. If you can't then there's plenty of other sexual things you can do with each other that can be just as fulfilling and enjoyable.
i've been on birth control(the pill) ever since we did start having sex so there are no worries of getting pregnant. thank you Westguy1003 great advice .i've been with my boyfriend for a year and i am a 100% comfortable around and with him. he isn't rough and and stops when i say it does hurt. we do foreplay at the beginning which doesn't hurt leading up to sex that automatically begins hurting.
i get tense if he touches a certain way that i don't like but relax right away. i don't have any history of any abuse or anything.
i am petite and it might be because he is big and i'm ALOT smaller.
is there any other way to get wetter other than more foreplay and lubrication?
thank you for all the help..
i get tense if he touches a certain way that i don't like but relax right away. i don't have any history of any abuse or anything.
i am petite and it might be because he is big and i'm ALOT smaller.
is there any other way to get wetter other than more foreplay and lubrication?
thank you for all the help..
Not all condoms are made of latex, as there are other types he can use. You really should be using some type of birth control, since I doubt you want to be pregnant anytime soon. If you are nervous it will be more painful, since you won't be able to have your muscles relax and not be able to get sufficiently wet. Also iam1butterfly makes a good point, if he is being rough, he needs to stop as it is hurting you. Talk to him about it. hope all goes well. good luck.
Well... you're right, sex should be "enjoyable" and not so problematic. Is your boyfriend rough and/or demanding during sex? Does he know that sex hurts you? The pain problem may not only be because of you... maybe the source of pain is in his approach.
Sex probably hurts because you are nervous, and then after it hurts you are more nervous the next time. Well, if I was having unprotected sex, I'd be nervous too! Not every condom is made of latex. I think you should use lubricated condoms, or get onto the Pill and use lubricating gels made for this purpose. Your boyfriend is getting a free ride and he should take some responsibility, get him out there looking at condom choices.
Maybe your hole is too tite.
Or you maybe to dry down there make sure it is wet or use some substance to make it more moveable.
Hope that works(:
Or you maybe to dry down there make sure it is wet or use some substance to make it more moveable.
Hope that works(:
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Perhaps you're really not ready to be having intercourse? That'd be okay. There's no rush. It's okay to not want to have sex or to not be ready for it. Doesn't matter how old you are or anything.
And speaking as a guy, if he's being too rough or demanding with you then believe me you do NOT have to take it. And you should not feel obligated to give him sex when he wants it to make him happy. Your happiness is important too. If he cares about you he should want you to enjoy your sexual time together just as much as he does and he shouldn't want to continue having sex with you if its causing you pain.
Also, as was mentioned already, you really should be using some type of birth control. If you're allergic to latex there are other materials they make condoms out of specifically for people with latex allergies. Also, being allergic to latex wouldn't have anything to do with lubricant so there's no reason to believe you'd be allergic to that as well. There are other forms of birth control as well such as the pill, depo shots, patches, etc. If you continue to have sex without using any form of birth control trust me: You WILL get pregnant and I assume you don't want that.
Beyond all that, is there any other reason why you may be hurting all the time? Do you have any sexual or physical abuse in your history that might be causing you to tense up or become closed off to sex? Is he particularly well-endowed?
Any number of things could be causing you to experience pain during sex but the most common ones would be the lack of lubrication, you being tense during it that would cause you to tighten up and not be fully relaxed, or a big difference between the size of his penis and your body type. Are you a petitte woman?
Again, some or all of this could be a simple matter of you not being turned on enough, him being a little too aggressive, or a lack of lubrication. But on the mental side of things if you're not really enjoying sex and you're not ready to be sexually active then by all means don't feel as though you have to be to make him happy. Your happiness and health is important. Don't feel pressured to do anything you aren't comfortable or ready to do yet. It's okay.