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HELP..... PLEASE!!!
This is a bit embarrassing, but it's been on my mind for over 2 years..... been to embarrassed to mention it to the doctor.
When i was 14-15 and experimenting 'masturbating' i used an electric toothbrush on the clitoris. I did it a hell of a lot, and for about 2 years roughly. Now it is actually quite numb, and bf's find it hard to make me ***!! The left side has this uncomfortable feeling all the time, but can only be felt when touched.
Any advice, answers, anything.... please? Thanks!
When i was 14-15 and experimenting 'masturbating' i used an electric toothbrush on the clitoris. I did it a hell of a lot, and for about 2 years roughly. Now it is actually quite numb, and bf's find it hard to make me ***!! The left side has this uncomfortable feeling all the time, but can only be felt when touched.
Any advice, answers, anything.... please? Thanks!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
It's difficult to answer your concern because so much of what you say is subjective. If there's any physical damage, it can only be confirmed by a physical examination by your gynecologist. If you do, indeed, feel you have a medical concern, you should see your gynecologist immediately.
It's also possible that you've become accustomed to the intense vibrations of the electric toothbrush. Some women find that they need this intense stimulation for orgasm. You might try playing with some new toys--vibrators and such, to see if any feel good to you. Or you can experiment with just using your hand during self-pleasuring in order to find out what feels best.
For most of us, orgasm is a learned behavior, but many of us haven't yet learned how because we're afraid--for a myriad of reasons.
First, many of us don’t ever learn about our own bodies—particularly our vulva. What do girls learn about their vulva? They receive either no message at all (which is the same as receiving a negative message), or they are given two washcloths—one for their body, and one for “down there.” Now there’s a negative message for you: It’s so dirty, you can’t touch it with the same cloth you’d use on the rest of your body! It’s no wonder that we’re woefully ignorant about orgasm as well.
So how to remedy that? The first step in claiming your body is to learn about your crotch: 1) Do a self-exam: Get a good mirror, sit down, find all your parts and get to know them. Look at your unique colors and shapes and revel in this wonderful gift you’ve been given! 2) Look at photos of vulvas. Excellent books are available from http://www.libida.com and http://www.goodvibes.com/
Most of us learn about women’s orgasms from movies, TV and books. You know: the perfect, romantic, spontaneous, simultaneous, earth-moving Big O. We’re supposed to orgasm from 2 minutes of penis-vagina sex in the missionary position in the dark with a partner who is clueless. So we put this pressure on ourselves and are mostly disappointed when it doesn’t happen.
Here’s the reality: In women, the clitoris must be stimulated—either directly or indirectly—in order for orgasm to happen. The clitoris is our primary sex organ--not the vagina--and consists of the glans (or head), the hood which covers the glans, and the shaft. Most women do not orgasm from penis-vagina sex alone, so please don't put pressure on yourself to do so.
For most women, orgasm results from a constant circular motion around the shaft and glans. Also important to know is that once a woman’s orgasm begins, if the stimulation is removed, the orgasm will end. Orgasm is characterized by a series of pleasurable, involuntary contractions in and around the vulva (clitoris, vagina and inner/outer lips). Most women have between 5 and 8 contractions per orgasm.
It takes time and practice to learn about your own orgasms before you share them with a partner, and it's important that you “own” your orgasm fully and not let someone else define how you should be responding. The best way to find out what you like is to experiment when you’re alone. Check out the area around your clitoris first. Be sure to use some lubrication and gently touch around the top and sides to find out what feels good. You may need to do this many times before you get comfortable and used to the intensity. Find the sensitive spots that feel good. The best part of this learning experience is that it’s fun!
The first step in claiming your body is to learn about your crotch: 1) Do a self-exam: Get a good mirror, sit down, find all your parts and get to know them. Look at your unique colors and shapes and revel in this wonderful gift you’ve been given! 2) Look at photos of vulvas. Excellent books are available from http://www.libida.com and http://www.goodvibes.com/
Once you understand your own body’s responses, then you can begin to share them with a partner—even more fun! Be patient. It takes time to learn and to build up trust, but if you do this now, you’ll be setting yourself up for yummy sex for the rest of your life. I highly recommend the book, "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality," by Lonnie Barbach. It's widely available in paperback, and is a step-by-step program for learning about your own sexual response. In addition, it contains lots of sharing by women about their own personal journeys of sexual self-discovery. I think it will help you immensely.
And one final word about orgasms: They last about 10 seconds, and yet we put so much value on them. Besides orgasm, there are lots of pleasurable things to enjoy during sex--whether it's with yourself or with a partner. So please don't focus solely on orgasm. If you put that kind of pressure on yourself, it becomes a "job" instead of fun. And sex can be lots of fun if you relax and enjoy all the sensations. Sex is a grand buffet of wonderful dishes. If you focus on only one, you'll miss out on all the other wonderful flavors. Good luck! Dr. J
It's difficult to answer your concern because so much of what you say is subjective. If there's any physical damage, it can only be confirmed by a physical examination by your gynecologist. If you do, indeed, feel you have a medical concern, you should see your gynecologist immediately.
It's also possible that you've become accustomed to the intense vibrations of the electric toothbrush. Some women find that they need this intense stimulation for orgasm. You might try playing with some new toys--vibrators and such, to see if any feel good to you. Or you can experiment with just using your hand during self-pleasuring in order to find out what feels best.
For most of us, orgasm is a learned behavior, but many of us haven't yet learned how because we're afraid--for a myriad of reasons.
First, many of us don’t ever learn about our own bodies—particularly our vulva. What do girls learn about their vulva? They receive either no message at all (which is the same as receiving a negative message), or they are given two washcloths—one for their body, and one for “down there.” Now there’s a negative message for you: It’s so dirty, you can’t touch it with the same cloth you’d use on the rest of your body! It’s no wonder that we’re woefully ignorant about orgasm as well.
So how to remedy that? The first step in claiming your body is to learn about your crotch: 1) Do a self-exam: Get a good mirror, sit down, find all your parts and get to know them. Look at your unique colors and shapes and revel in this wonderful gift you’ve been given! 2) Look at photos of vulvas. Excellent books are available from http://www.libida.com and http://www.goodvibes.com/
Most of us learn about women’s orgasms from movies, TV and books. You know: the perfect, romantic, spontaneous, simultaneous, earth-moving Big O. We’re supposed to orgasm from 2 minutes of penis-vagina sex in the missionary position in the dark with a partner who is clueless. So we put this pressure on ourselves and are mostly disappointed when it doesn’t happen.
Here’s the reality: In women, the clitoris must be stimulated—either directly or indirectly—in order for orgasm to happen. The clitoris is our primary sex organ--not the vagina--and consists of the glans (or head), the hood which covers the glans, and the shaft. Most women do not orgasm from penis-vagina sex alone, so please don't put pressure on yourself to do so.
For most women, orgasm results from a constant circular motion around the shaft and glans. Also important to know is that once a woman’s orgasm begins, if the stimulation is removed, the orgasm will end. Orgasm is characterized by a series of pleasurable, involuntary contractions in and around the vulva (clitoris, vagina and inner/outer lips). Most women have between 5 and 8 contractions per orgasm.
It takes time and practice to learn about your own orgasms before you share them with a partner, and it's important that you “own” your orgasm fully and not let someone else define how you should be responding. The best way to find out what you like is to experiment when you’re alone. Check out the area around your clitoris first. Be sure to use some lubrication and gently touch around the top and sides to find out what feels good. You may need to do this many times before you get comfortable and used to the intensity. Find the sensitive spots that feel good. The best part of this learning experience is that it’s fun!
The first step in claiming your body is to learn about your crotch: 1) Do a self-exam: Get a good mirror, sit down, find all your parts and get to know them. Look at your unique colors and shapes and revel in this wonderful gift you’ve been given! 2) Look at photos of vulvas. Excellent books are available from http://www.libida.com and http://www.goodvibes.com/
Once you understand your own body’s responses, then you can begin to share them with a partner—even more fun! Be patient. It takes time to learn and to build up trust, but if you do this now, you’ll be setting yourself up for yummy sex for the rest of your life. I highly recommend the book, "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality," by Lonnie Barbach. It's widely available in paperback, and is a step-by-step program for learning about your own sexual response. In addition, it contains lots of sharing by women about their own personal journeys of sexual self-discovery. I think it will help you immensely.
And one final word about orgasms: They last about 10 seconds, and yet we put so much value on them. Besides orgasm, there are lots of pleasurable things to enjoy during sex--whether it's with yourself or with a partner. So please don't focus solely on orgasm. If you put that kind of pressure on yourself, it becomes a "job" instead of fun. And sex can be lots of fun if you relax and enjoy all the sensations. Sex is a grand buffet of wonderful dishes. If you focus on only one, you'll miss out on all the other wonderful flavors. Good luck! Dr. J
its just a massager thing.... an im thinking i should stop cuz i dont want that... at all an yea that would be very frustratin..... this might be personal an u dont have to anwer it if u dont wanna but is it hard for u to get off now? an im thinkin im gonna stop with anthing thats like that an stick to hands so its not soo intense an lose feelin immmm really glad u brought this up i would have never though of that an thats kinda important ahahah i like my pleassure ahah dont wanna lose it hahah thankkks
thanks veryyyyy much Luc19 an yea i understand it being frustratin an yea it generally around that time with my bf so not bad.. well thanks very much ...
Nah I can do it say with fingers in about ten mins roughly. But only me..... my bf can't seem to. Very annoying!! lol good luck..
Well if it is a toothbrush then definitely stop yes..... i am not numb completely, but pretty much almost! It's very frustrating... so stop if it is a toothbrush, what is it you use?
i did or do something like that just not with a toothbrush an it feels amazinnnnng i do that the odd time im alone.... so like ur numb? from that cuz i dont want to be numb would u advise me to stop?
Any more advice? haha
Nothing to be embarrassed about. Its just that your fantasy towards sex has lessened. Healing is a mind's game, therefore the best way to heal is to heal your mind. For example, try something new or different from the regular sexual practices. Try playing characters, different styles in fact unimaginable styles. Ignore the clitoris for a few days and find interest in something else. No matter how much your clits might want it, just ignore it. A time will come wen u splash again! Have fun!!!
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