My fiance' & I have been together for nearly 3 years, will be married in 7 months, & have remained virgins for religious reasons. It hasn't been the least bit easy on either of us, but during the course of our relationship it has become painfully obvious that my sex drive is rather high, and his is rather low. I want him all the time, he can go forever without doing anything. He says that's from the time he took a long hiatus from dating, but he never moved beyond kissing his exes.
Every time we've taken a step further in our relationship from kissing, first making out, first serious make out session, first time articles of clothing were removed (only to the waist usually), & then me in my undies and him naked/first handjob. However, he rarely takes initiative in making out, etc. He acts like everything about me turns him on, and I know it does. At the same time, I know he doesn't get as much out of our encounters as I do, because I am an extreme beginner, and he shows no interest in teaching me because "my pleasure is his pleasure," and while he enjoys the things I do very little of the usual things turn him on. He gets as much into it as I do and there have been a couple times that I have had to put the brakes on because I knew he would most definitely continue when in the past he had no problem putting the brakes on or holding back. It hurt when he told me that he thinks I get more out of it then he does, after an incredible time together, but instead of wallowing I asked him to teach me. He refused. Told me it was unimportant. Cont.