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Dr. Janice I recently posted this on the general forum but intended to seek expert advice not a discussion. Can you help please?
My recant live-in girlfriend has initiated a procedure where she inserts her finger into my anus and by stroking/pressure on the front wall causes a quantity of clear fluid to be expressed from my penis. Altough pleasurable this is not a direct sexual thing and she claims it to be part of a daily healthy lifestyle. She is a health/exercise person. She says that her late husband introduced this and that a) she can use this "male hormone rich" fluid to rub on her breast and thus keep them hard and tight- - -this seems to work. b) the quantity of fluid will increase as my body accustoms to the procedure - - - no change after a few weeks. c) my ejaculate during sex and thus the pleasurable feeling will dramatically increase with time.
What is this fluid, it is clear and not thick and creamy as during ejaculation?
Is doing this manual expressing of fluid two or three times a day harmfull?
Are her claims of benifit true or should I just go along with it to please her?
First, let’s deal with the facts and then the myths. The clear fluid you’re referring to is actually produced by the Cowper’s Gland—some refer to it as “pre-ejaculate.” This fluid is secreted prior to orgasm in order to clean out the urethra of any uric acid remaining from prior urination. It’s important for risk reduction and birth control to note that this fluid can contain millions of sperm left over from the previous ejaculation. Now to the myths: it has no magical qualities—and neither does semen. It’s not rich in any particular beneficial hormones, doesn’t firm breasts, clear up acne, make you gain weight, etc. None of these myths is substantiated by any data.
What your girlfriend is doing is massaging your prostate. According to Erika Thost, M.D., author of “Sexy Prostate: Male G-Spot Massage for Pleasure and Health,” many men and couples enjoy prostate massage for pleasure, but also for helping improve their prostate health when they’re having symptoms. I am not aware of any long-term studies regarding whether prostate massage helps to prevent cancer or other conditions. And I’m also unaware of any studies that will change production of either Cowper’s Gland fluid or semen.
For more information regarding prostate massage, see Dr. Thost’s website:
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