Vagina tightness or something serious?

[pianogirl3539]

i am 15 years old and me and my boyfriend were making out on his couch. he started moaning and he said he was really horny. (sorry for certain details) he was kissing my neck and he eventually stuck his penis in my vagina and i screamed from pain because it was my first time. i felt my vagina feeling tight and it was from his penis swelling up. then it happened, his penis was stuck in my vagina. it took him like 30 minutes to get it out, and i was crying the whole time in pain.  i have always been tight, but in the future will this happen when i try to have kids or engage in sexual intercourse in the future? i am scared .... will i be able to have kids and will sex be this painful each time? he said he felt very awkward and asked me to leave.... i already had tests done. im not pregnant and dont have any diseases. but im still worried about this.will anyone enjoy having sex with me ever/? please help

[7raineDayz]

I don't believe your age plays a huge role in this situation (Im 15 and I've been sexually active since i was 12). Although i do agree that you should wait til your emotionally ready. When i lost my virginity i had the exact same experience. I waited about a month to start having sex again and it did get easier. By the way I've never been pregnant and have never caught a sti. I hope this helps :D    

[sunshine161]

how about waiting until you are at least 18 yr old (perhaps your body has much more developing to do, to be ready for this type of sexual activity, as well as ready for having a baby;  and making a home for a baby and family.

[pianogirl3539]

thanks for the help (:

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hi there.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience and glad you escaped either pregnancy or STI's. However, I want to assure you that one bad experience doesn't mean anything regarding your vaginal health or your sexuality.

At 15, your vagina is as tight as it needs to be for your size. When you're ready to enjoy any kind of sexual expression that involves anything in your vagina, it's important that YOU make the decision. That means you know when you're emotionally ready for the responsibility, educated enough about your own pleasure so you can be assured of a positive experience, and mature enough to take responsibility for birth control and risk reduction.

It's not uncommon for women to have an involuntary tightness in response to sudden penetration. Obviously, you weren't ready. Be sure not to put yourself in this situation EVER again. Wait until the conditions are right, you're relaxed and very turned on. And go sloooowly and use lots of lube. Best of luck to you. Dr. J

[HostBody]

How about waiting until you are actually ready for a sexual relationship with someone who will care about how it is for you, instead of a boy who's only interest is getting his rocks off then telling YOU to leave because he felt awkward!!
Regardless of how it turned out, the embarassment factor was high enough for him to boot you out without any concern for your feelings.

Harsh.... just harsh.

Oh and ignore the advice above, you're underage and clearly not ready physically or emotionally for a sexual relationship yet.

[pianogirl3539]

ok

[rookiemom]

Try four play more excuse my language but let him stick his fingers in there first loosin it up a little bit. Or have him perform oral on u first so you can get wet making it easier for him to insert & exit.
But dont stress missy its always a PLUS to have a tight NANA lol