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Vaginal Tear?
Hi. I just had sex with my "friend" for the first time two days ago. He was larger than I have ever experienced, and I had been abstinent since April 2009. Upon his entering, there was immediate and extreme pain. I had to tell him to slow down (and he wasn't going fast, so basically he had to stop). After a few minutes I was able to continue. However, he slipped out a few times. Then it got a little rough, which of course was painful still. Once I got home I noticed I was bleeding. One of my labia was swollen. And I was still very sore. There wasn't a large amount of blood. However, when I woke up yesterday morning, there was a little more blood. This morning there was like a pinkish discharge but nothing else. That night it stung a very little when I urinated. The stinging stopped sometime yesterday. I'm still a little sore, but I it's not more than simple discomfort now. I've never had any vaginal tearing before, but I think he may have torn something. Is my assumption completely off? Or is it something more serious? How long should I monitor my situation before seeking a doctor's care? Lastly, what can I do to help it heal? Thanks so much for your time.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi.
This is a gynecological question, so if you'd like a very detailed gynecological answer, I'd suggest you post in the Gynecology Expert Forum at
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/103
This is more common than you'd think. A large penis pops out unexpectedly, tearing the delicate skin on your labia. Ouch!
With rest, pain killers, warm water and loose clothes, you should heal fairly quickly; however, you might also want to call your gynecologist's office and speak to the nurse to get information about whether they can prescribe anything for you. Another option is to visit the Planned Parenthood or women's clinic in your area.
When having penis-vagina sex it's important that you're 1) sufficiently turned on and 2) sufficiently lubricated. The skin around your labia is very delicate and easily bruised or irritated. You also need to impress upon your partner that he needs to go slow and not try to initiate penis-vagina sex until you say you're ready. That's important. No p-v sex unitl you're ready! Don't fall into a bad habit now which will be difficult to change. Many women feel they "should" have p-v sex when their partner wants it, and this can be very harmful because it sets up a destructive pattern. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
This is a gynecological question, so if you'd like a very detailed gynecological answer, I'd suggest you post in the Gynecology Expert Forum at
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/103
This is more common than you'd think. A large penis pops out unexpectedly, tearing the delicate skin on your labia. Ouch!
With rest, pain killers, warm water and loose clothes, you should heal fairly quickly; however, you might also want to call your gynecologist's office and speak to the nurse to get information about whether they can prescribe anything for you. Another option is to visit the Planned Parenthood or women's clinic in your area.
When having penis-vagina sex it's important that you're 1) sufficiently turned on and 2) sufficiently lubricated. The skin around your labia is very delicate and easily bruised or irritated. You also need to impress upon your partner that he needs to go slow and not try to initiate penis-vagina sex until you say you're ready. That's important. No p-v sex unitl you're ready! Don't fall into a bad habit now which will be difficult to change. Many women feel they "should" have p-v sex when their partner wants it, and this can be very harmful because it sets up a destructive pattern. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
With large penises, you need to go REAL SLOOOOWWWW. Put in just a bit at a time, relax and breathe, then when it feels good, try a little further. You can slow this process down over several days; this will not only help your body get used to his size, but will also tease you and enhance the eroticism of the experience. Good luck! Dr. J
hey just a quick qestion um im havin the same thing?i think but this sounds gross but its just under the hole an its about the lenth of my pinkiy nail so its not big an it bleed lil lil bit but that was it an yea im swollan on one sid aswell im not really worried about that just want to heal cuz its like everytime i do stuff it comes back but i guess that means it wasnt heald properly im assumin im sooo glad to here ur story cuz i have like the same idea plz respond soon as well as JANICE EPPS,PHD PLZZ i an wouldnt sea salt bath help cuz i was told it will heal my belly butoon fast?
I will definitely keep that in mind. I think I'll wait three weeks to make sure my body's healed thoroughly. thanks again for everything. I really appreciate your help!
Thank you so much for you response! I'm going to post my question again in the gyn forum. However, your response was very helpful. Although, he didn't rush things. I was well lubricated and more than ready. But I don't have sex on a regular basis, so my body wasn't as elastic. He was also large, so the combination of the two created the issue. Therefore, the lubrication did help, but unfortunately I still couldn't stretch to where I needed to accept him immediately. (I think that made some sense. Sorry if it didn't.) Thanks again for your time!
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