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from past few days, i am feeling very little burning sensation and urge to pee, and it is after when i hold my sperm inside my penis while night fall or wet night, i do not allow my sperm to come out.
So tell me it is bad to hold the sperm inside and not let it out, some time i masturbate and hold my sperm inside do not let it out and keep it inside and stop rubbing my penis.
Now i stop masturbation but when i about to ejaculate in my dream i also hold the sperm inside and then i feel this little burning sensation and urge to pee and hard to get an full erection also so plzz. tell me what is this.
is i am suffering from erection dysfunction or premature ejaculation. because i do not do masturbation in excess and before one week i do havr any problem with my erection and not having this problem. so plzz tell me.
I'm not sure I understand your question. I believe you're asking if masturbation can create any erection problems for you. The answer is most emphatically no. You also ask questions about sperm. I believe you actually mean that you are preventing yourself from ejaculating semen (the fluid that carries sperm). If you are aroused enough to experience orgasm but are preventing yourself from doing so, you may indeed experience some discomfort. I do not know why you would deny yourself orgasm, but may hazard a guess that you feel somehow it's not good for you? Here is some important information to replace some harmful myths.
Almost everyone feels insecure about masturbation—or self-pleasuring. One of the reasons we’re so uncomfortable with it is because we don’t receive any accurate information, but rather grow up hearing lots of myths which are not supported by factual data. We all want to know that what WE do is OK. From your note, it looks like you feel that it’s somehow harmful or wrong. It sounds like you’re worried that self-pleasuring is some kind of “condition” or illness. Not true
Self-pleasuring doesn’t affect your body in any negative way. What it CAN do, like any strenuous exercise, is either energize you or make you feel tired. Exercise affects everyone different, so it’s possible that after an orgasm, you feel tired, the same way as after a brisk work-out. And you know that later, you’ll regain your energy. The difference here is that no one has told you that working out is going to affect you permanently, so you haven’t begun to worry and stress about exercise the way you’re worrying and stressing about self-pleasuring.
One reason these myths about semen and strength still prevail is that after orgasm, there is a period in which men cannot have another orgasm--the "Refractory Period." Think of it as a time when your body is resting in order to build up its ability to orgasm again, if you will. It's just a rest period, and nothing to worry about. This period varies from man to man, depending on age, physical health and other factors. It’s a biological process, and has nothing to do with how often you self-pleasure, etc.
Let’s talk about what we DO know about self-pleasuring.
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. So please stop torturing yourself, accept your sexuality as a gift and start enjoying life.
About your erection concerns: Erections go up and down. You’ll find this happening all your life. It doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sex. Some men find that keeping up the same amount of self-pleasuring as well as partner sex can be a bit tiring. If you want to build up sexual tension so that you’re really turned on with your partner, you may want to experiment with how frequent you self-pleasure. Remember that everyone is different, and whatever works for you is what works for you. There’s no magic “formula” here.
Much of your problem is due to your attitude. If you feel anxious and begin to judge yourself, that can be a vicious circle. The more you worry about erections, the more your penis won’t cooperate. In fact, it can be downright rebellious!
Many men feel that if their erection goes down even a tiny bit, there’s something wrong with them. Where does this come from?
Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Ask yourself whether you have any conflicts about being sexual—any old messages that might be lurking in your subconscious.
Your body is working fine—it’s your heart/brain that’s getting in the way. For more information about erection issues, attitude, etc., I highly recommend the book “The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. It’s widely available both used and in paperback and is an invaluable resource.
Relax, stop putting pressure on yourself and enjoy sex for what it is: pleasure. Give yourself permission to enjoy whatever happens—and find partners who aren’t hung up on performance issues either. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Are you seriously saying that you hold the semen in? You could cause irritation to your uretha or bladder. I can't remember the right terms, but there's something, a muscle or something of that sort, that prevents your semen from backtracking into your bladder. If you hold in your semen you could be causing it to go back to your bladder. You're uretha contains bacteria from the outside world and when your semen makes it to your penis shaft and then you make it stay in there, your semen could be gathering this bacteria and it could backtrack it to your bladder causing an infection. It could be causing a bladder infection or a urinary tract infection. If it's pleasurable to hold it in then look into finding penis plugs, but don't hold semen in long. It could cause damage to your bladder or semen tracts.... I need to find the right terms. Haven't had sex-education in 9-10 years. lol.
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