is it normal.........girls masturbating??? is there any loss of sexual power

[maria.here]

i m a girl,just turned 21....n for last 3-4 years.i  was involved into.habit of masturbation.........n i always felt guilty for this...but got addicted to it!! now.........m feeling quite tense about my deed!! is masturbation.......bad for health!! because   i have read tht....masturbation.effect health badly and causes weakness!!! m surfferieng from weakness for last 3-4 years.pain in my legs muscles,n most importand.now i think i have lost all my sexual power.n cnt maker it for long!!!
is this a very serious problem??will it effect my married life??? can i b able to recollect my sexual power ever??? pls help me...............as its eating out my life!!! i think  my life is totally spoiled!!! helping me will b like......giving new life to me!!! pls tell me whther i can b able to hve sex for long or not!!!

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

    Not only is it normal- but masturbation is GOOD for you-- I kid you not! I think your guilt or worry is giving you problems because it most assuredly is not caused by masturbation. Masturbation is more likely to be able to teach you how to have stronger, easier orgasms and not the opposite effect. Women who masturbate generally enjoy sex more, have more vivid sexual imagery, are more orgasmic, are more orgasmic during sex and have better body image.

   So, relax and stop punishing yourself! If you have lost your sexual energy its not because of masturbation, it is because you are feeling guilty and full of anxiety and fear. Get over it! Masturbation is a great way of being sexual and it will not harm you at all. You may get used to having your orgasms a specific way and so it might be a more efficient way of having an orgasm than intercourse- but that is the only effect it could have that might take a little adjustment once you have a partner.

[Opuddy]

Yes it's normal, healthy and it help you to learn how to make love to your own body. And when you have a bf,or gf, Then you can show them how you would like to be sexually pleasured. As for any other sexual problems with your masturbation, can't seem to find any reason that you should stop enjoying your God given rights to   enjoy your sexuality.

[maria.here]

thnxxxx 4 replies  but...wt 2 do..........about my lost stamina....!!!! m gettin weaker n weaker..........n tenser.about my future life.......!!!pls tell me..cn i recover my stamina  widout ne treatment????coz  for now i think i m like dead/..........cn not make it 4 long.........m i finished????

[maria.here]

i think my health is more imp. thn spellings n alllllllll !!!!!!!!

[banter]

I cannot think of any reason why masturbation would cause any of the problems you describe.  On the other hand, the mind has a lot of control over the body.  You say that you "always felt guilty for this" and that you "but got addicted to it" and that you are "feeling quite tense about my deed" and wonder if masturbation is "bad for health."  

With all of this guilt and feeling tense, I would not be surprised that there are bodily repercussions.  If all this tension and guilt is taking a physical toll on you then you need to either try and ease up on the "guilt trip" you are laying on yourself, since masturbation is a normal and healthy activity, or get counseling to help you with your guilt and anxiety.

[maria.here]

hey thankssssssss 4 the replies,................!!! but stilll i dint get........wt i want to ask.........!!! i want 2 ask.......i think i hv lost my sexual power.....as i cnt  make it for long.......so is it normal...............??n wt i want to ask is...........wt cn b d reason...for losss..........n how cn i recollect all my lost ......stamina........2 njoy sex 4 long !!!!

[TMB1975]

TALK TO YOUR GYNO. SINCE U R NOT GETTING THE RESPONSE U WANT OR NEED.

[maria.here]

ya thts wt d last soln.........but m asking u people.if nebody hd xperienced  d same......problem...........it will help me.........!!! coz i cnt talk openly about this to nebody!!!.so pls hlp...if ne body know about this

[banter]

Okay, you said - - -  "i have read tht....masturbation.effect health badly and causes weakness!!! m surfferieng from weakness for last 3-4 years.pain in my legs muscles,n most importand.now i think i have lost all my sexual power.n cnt maker it for long!!!"

First of all, I am not sure where you read that masturbation has a bad effect on health, but what you read is WRONG.  Go to google.com and look up the word "masturbation" and you'll likely not find any postings talking about a bad effect on health.  (And remember - you can't always believe what you read on the Internet since anyone can post articles there.)

As a matter of fact, look the subject up on Wikipedia.  Here is the link -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation
This will tell you everything you want to know about masturbation - including the fact that it is actually a HEALTHY activity (with GOOD effect on health).

If you are suffering with weakness and pain in muscles, then there is something else wrong here and that should be checked out by a doctor.  There are many reasons why you could be experiencing weakness - and some reasons could be serious.

If you are embarrassed to mention anything about masturbation to a doctor, then don’t.  Just go to the doctor and tell him that you have muscle weakness.  Or maybe tell him you have weakness whenever you do any kind of exercising.  (Masturbation is like exercising, after all.  It involves exertion and some amount of effort.)

[polayn]

is it normal for an 18 year old to masturbate?
am i young to do it? because i always feel guilty everytime i do that, i feel that it is not normal or natural. and i was thinking if watching porno also affects me. i don't know if its a natural human mechanism or whatever.

[donb_fl]

its normal for men and women of all ages to masturbate and even desirable. The old myth of it making one week is a Victorian era belief and is patently false. It helps with stress relief and releases a natural relaxant into your system. There is no way it can cause leg weakness.

[Limey85]

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