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not able to satisfy
Hi,
last time when i went for sex with my partner after doing it for first time she told me that she was not satisfied & ask me to do it again but when i tried to do it second time pennis was not lifting up(standing) & i tried for 15-20 min but pennis was not lifting up as it was late so v both have to leave immediately.at that time i thought that because it was the time to leave that is why this thing happened.
yesterday again same thing happened that after doing once my partner was not satisfied & when she asked me to do again pennis does'nt lifts & yesterday i have enough time but it does'nt happen.
previously it never use to happen.
I want to know that is it some sexual problem because of which i m not able to satisfy my partner or is there any way of increasing the discharge time ? Doing second time pennis is not lifting is due to the fact that i m sexually weak or i have less sex power?
I want to add that i m 25yrs of age & also when i tried doing second time i was thinging more about pennis than enjoying sex.
pls tell me that i m sexually weak or the reason is something else also not able to satisfy brings lots of humillation...........
pls also tell me how to improve..........
pls help me........
last time when i went for sex with my partner after doing it for first time she told me that she was not satisfied & ask me to do it again but when i tried to do it second time pennis was not lifting up(standing) & i tried for 15-20 min but pennis was not lifting up as it was late so v both have to leave immediately.at that time i thought that because it was the time to leave that is why this thing happened.
yesterday again same thing happened that after doing once my partner was not satisfied & when she asked me to do again pennis does'nt lifts & yesterday i have enough time but it does'nt happen.
previously it never use to happen.
I want to know that is it some sexual problem because of which i m not able to satisfy my partner or is there any way of increasing the discharge time ? Doing second time pennis is not lifting is due to the fact that i m sexually weak or i have less sex power?
I want to add that i m 25yrs of age & also when i tried doing second time i was thinging more about pennis than enjoying sex.
pls tell me that i m sexually weak or the reason is something else also not able to satisfy brings lots of humillation...........
pls also tell me how to improve..........
pls help me........
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
First, let’s clear up something: you’re NOT the problem. There’s nothing wrong with you—or your penis. Sounds to me like you have an expectation that a) you should be able to have an erection after orgasm; and b) your partner “should” orgasm with penis-vagina (p-v) stimulation and that no matter how long it takes, you should hang in there. The fact is that most women DON’T orgasm during p-v sex. It’s a much more effective way for men to orgasm than women.
A major difference between women and men is that generally, the clitoris needs constant direct or indirect stimulation, unlike the penis. While many women enjoy p-v sex, for at least 40-50% of them, it usually doesn’t result in orgasm. Why? Because most p-v sex doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation women need for orgasm.
After you have an orgasm, you’re not having another erection because you’re trying to continue long after your penis has said “enough!” After orgasm, men experience a period where no amount of stimulation will result in another orgasm. This is called the “Refractory Period.” Think of this as a time when your penis needs a rest. This period varies depending on age, health and other factors, and it’s totally OK.
I can assure you that what makes a great lover has nothing to do with erections and everything to do with being open to trying new things, being imaginative and spontaneous, and, most importantly, treating your whole body and a partner's whole body as sexual, not just your crotch. Trust me: your mind and interpersonal skills are most important.
So stop putting pressure on yourself to last long enough for your partner to orgasm. Most likely, it’s not going to happen, and it has nothing to do with you.
If your partner wants to continue being sexual after you have an orgasm, I suggest you try some non penis-vagina activities, like or manual oral stimulation. There are lots of ways to be sexual besides p-v. If you and your partner are flexible and experimental, you’ll both have smiles on your faces as the years go by. Dr. J
A major difference between women and men is that generally, the clitoris needs constant direct or indirect stimulation, unlike the penis. While many women enjoy p-v sex, for at least 40-50% of them, it usually doesn’t result in orgasm. Why? Because most p-v sex doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation women need for orgasm.
After you have an orgasm, you’re not having another erection because you’re trying to continue long after your penis has said “enough!” After orgasm, men experience a period where no amount of stimulation will result in another orgasm. This is called the “Refractory Period.” Think of this as a time when your penis needs a rest. This period varies depending on age, health and other factors, and it’s totally OK.
I can assure you that what makes a great lover has nothing to do with erections and everything to do with being open to trying new things, being imaginative and spontaneous, and, most importantly, treating your whole body and a partner's whole body as sexual, not just your crotch. Trust me: your mind and interpersonal skills are most important.
So stop putting pressure on yourself to last long enough for your partner to orgasm. Most likely, it’s not going to happen, and it has nothing to do with you.
If your partner wants to continue being sexual after you have an orgasm, I suggest you try some non penis-vagina activities, like or manual oral stimulation. There are lots of ways to be sexual besides p-v. If you and your partner are flexible and experimental, you’ll both have smiles on your faces as the years go by. Dr. J
Not sure how you will encourage her to experiement but from a female point of view once she has had an orgasm with fingering or other ways, she will never look back.
I have never had an orgasm with p-v sex, it is purely for my husband for his fun...then it is my turn. Always gets a smile and a good night's satisfied sleep!
Believe me it is worth the effort to encourage her.
And no there is nothing wrong with you. My husband has only ever been able to get an erection once in any one session so don't think you are failing to perform. Your new partner needs to learn there is more than one way to enjoy sex, within reason.
In fact I know from my point of view the longer it takes hubby for an orgasm the more I wish he would hurry up for my turn and not go on and on.
I have never had an orgasm with p-v sex, it is purely for my husband for his fun...then it is my turn. Always gets a smile and a good night's satisfied sleep!
Believe me it is worth the effort to encourage her.
And no there is nothing wrong with you. My husband has only ever been able to get an erection once in any one session so don't think you are failing to perform. Your new partner needs to learn there is more than one way to enjoy sex, within reason.
In fact I know from my point of view the longer it takes hubby for an orgasm the more I wish he would hurry up for my turn and not go on and on.
yes rahulsharma,
same thing to happen my husband when is finished intercourse very offten doing second time but he is playing around 25 mins second time pennis was lift up what are doing that time oral sex its helpfull to lift up again the penni then you can enjoe again.
aslo if you can leave it 1/2hr agin its lift up penni need rest to start again i have seen differance if you used condom the 2nd time take time to lift up without condom not much take time to it any body i am not correct pl corrected
same thing to happen my husband when is finished intercourse very offten doing second time but he is playing around 25 mins second time pennis was lift up what are doing that time oral sex its helpfull to lift up again the penni then you can enjoe again.
aslo if you can leave it 1/2hr agin its lift up penni need rest to start again i have seen differance if you used condom the 2nd time take time to lift up without condom not much take time to it any body i am not correct pl corrected
thanks everyone........
this time i finished her with p-v sex.....much before i had erected.
this time i finished her with p-v sex.....much before i had erected.
> my partner not allow me to use fingers or oral.......is there any way ???
Yes, approach her with love and understanding, try to discuss about it and transmit to her the knowledge you acquire here about female orgasm. And finally, it is more easy to practice oral or fingering during foreplay (anyone is more receptive at that moment, although there are obviously limits).
If nothing of the above works, well, I am afraid you have to figure out how to convince her alone.
Yes, approach her with love and understanding, try to discuss about it and transmit to her the knowledge you acquire here about female orgasm. And finally, it is more easy to practice oral or fingering during foreplay (anyone is more receptive at that moment, although there are obviously limits).
If nothing of the above works, well, I am afraid you have to figure out how to convince her alone.
> can this b a reason becoz of which my performance during sex is degraded ?
Who says it is degraded?
> also,how i can improve myself ??
Stay in good health (eat healthy and exercise) and send away your anxiety about sex performance.
Who says it is degraded?
> also,how i can improve myself ??
Stay in good health (eat healthy and exercise) and send away your anxiety about sex performance.
thanks for help..........
my partner not allow me to use fingers or oral.......is there any way ???
my partner not allow me to use fingers or oral.......is there any way ???
i want to add
i really love the girl...want to keep her happy.previously i always use to satisfy last 2 times i had happened.......
even after all that she loves me.......i dont want to loose her.
as previously i use to satisfy her so,now she feels that i m having sex with someone else that is why i m not that gud as i use to....she is really possesive
moreover,i want to add that i had a bad tummy for around a month & harly able to digest two times meal,can this b a reason becoz of which my performance during sex is degraded ? also,how i can improve myself ??
pl help me.........
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