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problems with partner not able to ejaculate all the time. once every three days or more
what would cause a man to not ejaculate during sex with his partner. most of the time he fakes one. and some times he really cums .what could be his problem, is it me.
my husband sometimes does get off either. He is 55 and i dont know if that has to do with anything. Sometimes he is so excited and he is trying so hard to get off that he cant. I know he is not bored with me because he says sex with me is always different everytime. So maybe he is just trying to hard. We also use cealus when we do use it he can stay hard from a while and have a good orgasum.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Your question is quite complex, and no one can give you an answer except your partner.
What I CAN tell you is some of the more common contributory factors; however, this is an incomplete list.
It’s possible that once every three days is fine for your partner. Everyone's sexual physiology is different. This doesn't mean that he's not enjoying himself or not turned on. However, if he feels the need to fake it, he may feel you're putting pressure on him. This would be a big mistake.
I’m also wondering how aroused he is during sex with you. He might be bored, or perhaps some aspect of your relationship isn’t satisfying to him.
Other possible reasons he's not turned on: Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Some men are very affected by cultural or family messages that unmarried women who have sex are somehow “dirty” or evil.
So, to recap: he may have negative attitudes about sex in general, or he may have performance issues or be bored or frustrated.
But we can only guess. There's only one way to find out what's going on: talk with him. Good luck! Dr. J
Your question is quite complex, and no one can give you an answer except your partner.
What I CAN tell you is some of the more common contributory factors; however, this is an incomplete list.
It’s possible that once every three days is fine for your partner. Everyone's sexual physiology is different. This doesn't mean that he's not enjoying himself or not turned on. However, if he feels the need to fake it, he may feel you're putting pressure on him. This would be a big mistake.
I’m also wondering how aroused he is during sex with you. He might be bored, or perhaps some aspect of your relationship isn’t satisfying to him.
Other possible reasons he's not turned on: Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Some men are very affected by cultural or family messages that unmarried women who have sex are somehow “dirty” or evil.
So, to recap: he may have negative attitudes about sex in general, or he may have performance issues or be bored or frustrated.
But we can only guess. There's only one way to find out what's going on: talk with him. Good luck! Dr. J
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