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Vagina problem
My vagina is just too tight. I'm 20 years old, never had sex, it hurt too much whenever anyone tried to put anything in there. I know this can be because of lack of arousal, but I cant put anything up there either, not the smallest or silkiest tampon. I tried to masturbate many times but it always hurts if I try to put my finger up my vagina. I tried thinner objects like a pencil, no luck. Nothing goest deeper than 1-2 cms.
My question is, is this normal, could it be that I have some alteration there, or is it just psychological factors?
Also, I don't know if this is related, but my period has never been regular. It always comes after at least 6 weeks, but usually it skips months, sometimes half a year. But the duration is normal.
My question is, is this normal, could it be that I have some alteration there, or is it just psychological factors?
Also, I don't know if this is related, but my period has never been regular. It always comes after at least 6 weeks, but usually it skips months, sometimes half a year. But the duration is normal.
...makeing masturbate i want to stop it and i can't help me
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi Colette:
Many women have had this concern. When the vagina involuntarily tightens, it’s a condition called “vaginismus.” You may have this concern, or you may have a medical condition which needs to be diagnosed by a gynecologist.
Often, women experience this tightening up because of fear and anxiety. Sometimes this is caused by some past traumatic event or having received messages that sex is somehow dirty, harmful or wrong.
There are other various other possible psychological/emotional factors too numerous to detail here. These include fear of intimacy, fear of men and anxiety.
If you’ve set up a pattern of anxiety, you may be tightening up involuntarily. Try conjuring up a very hot fantasy—one that makes you very wet. If you find you’re not wet, that’s a dead give-away that your head is getting in the way.
Once you’re very aroused, breathe, relax and just try inserting the tip of your little finger. See how that goes—and take it very slow. You can use this exercise daily to gradually increase the depth of your finger. If that works for you, work up to your other fingers. You get the picture: break it down into small steps, and stop when you’re feeling anxious. Give yourself permission to go very slowly. You can learn both to relax and turn yourself on.
If after slowing down, letting yourself get turned on and lots of practice, you find you’re still tightening up, it’s definitely time to see your gynecologist for a check-up. I’m wondering if you’ve ever had one? If so, you’ve had a speculum inserted. Were you OK with that, or did you tighten up then as well? These are all questions to ask yourself.
If the exam reveals nothing, then consider seeing a counselor to examine any feelings from the above list that may be contributing to your tightening up. Good luck to you. Dr. J
Many women have had this concern. When the vagina involuntarily tightens, it’s a condition called “vaginismus.” You may have this concern, or you may have a medical condition which needs to be diagnosed by a gynecologist.
Often, women experience this tightening up because of fear and anxiety. Sometimes this is caused by some past traumatic event or having received messages that sex is somehow dirty, harmful or wrong.
There are other various other possible psychological/emotional factors too numerous to detail here. These include fear of intimacy, fear of men and anxiety.
If you’ve set up a pattern of anxiety, you may be tightening up involuntarily. Try conjuring up a very hot fantasy—one that makes you very wet. If you find you’re not wet, that’s a dead give-away that your head is getting in the way.
Once you’re very aroused, breathe, relax and just try inserting the tip of your little finger. See how that goes—and take it very slow. You can use this exercise daily to gradually increase the depth of your finger. If that works for you, work up to your other fingers. You get the picture: break it down into small steps, and stop when you’re feeling anxious. Give yourself permission to go very slowly. You can learn both to relax and turn yourself on.
If after slowing down, letting yourself get turned on and lots of practice, you find you’re still tightening up, it’s definitely time to see your gynecologist for a check-up. I’m wondering if you’ve ever had one? If so, you’ve had a speculum inserted. Were you OK with that, or did you tighten up then as well? These are all questions to ask yourself.
If the exam reveals nothing, then consider seeing a counselor to examine any feelings from the above list that may be contributing to your tightening up. Good luck to you. Dr. J
when i was a virgin i had same problem. i used2 exercise and dance a lot so that was 1 cause. the 2nd cause was anxiety and nervousness when i tried2 use tampon when i was vigin. 3rd cause when i had sex it was a traumatic experience. when i changed partners i had same tenseness. so all 3 factors plays a part in mine. i agree with dr. epps answers to your question
The thing is I don't want to go to a doctor unless there is a significant chance of something being wrong.
I would recommend you go an see a doctor. Might not be anything wrong but best to check.
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