my boyfriend & i have been together 4 over 7 yrs, lived together 4 almost 5 & porn has been an issue 4 a couple of yrs. i know it's normal 2 look OCCASIONALLY & i even enjoy a good vid every now & then when i'm in the mood 4 it. it started out when we got our 1st laptop & had access 2 the internet & things got a little less intimate. i knew he was getting on2 yahoochat 4 hrs & sacrificing sleep 4 the internet, so i looked at his web history & found the slew naked pics which in turn made me feel terrible & like i was no longer good enough. when i approached him, he got mad, tried 2 turn it around on me because i was snooping, & said it wasn't because he was no longer interested, he just liked porn. understandable. but not when it's everyday, hours a day. i thought maybe he really was just getting bored & afraid 2 tell me so i tried 2 enjoy it with him. i took him 2 a sex shop, told him 2 pick out a movie he wanted so we could indulge together, which 4 made him uncomfortable, but we tried it anyway. didn't really help. i continued 2 check things out because i was afraid he would end up cheating & i wanted 2 be prepared 4 it. i've told him countless times about why i look & how i feel about it & tried 2 get him 2 open up, but he shuts down even more & says he loves me & would never cheat on me. it's a little reassuring but the fear is always there since i've been cheated on numerous times. about a year ago, when things were pretty bad relationship-wise, we moved & agreed 2 try & work things out. that's about when things really got worse. when we lost the internet connection, he would just use his phone or take the laptop to a place with internet. at work, at home, while i'm sleeping or just in the other room, when i go 2 class. & it's gotten more hardcore. like i said earlier, it started out as just pics, then vids, then anal, then anal gaping & objects, combine that with lesbians, there's been teens... & i'm gonna have to continue this in a reply...